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Sunday, February 22, 2009

Submerged Emotions Surface as Pain

Feelings are a part of our lives. Feelings are a by-product of our core beliefs. We accept, deal, express, deny or avoid feelings constantly. Our own feelings as well as others. For the most part, it is not the feelings we encounter every day that shape our lives the most, but it is the feeling that we submerged deep within us as a result of our experiences. 

No matter how great or how small the event, we were unable to modulate those overwhelming feelings during our darkest periods. We hide these unclosed feelings beneath the surface of our consciousness. It is these submerged feelings which cripple our present decisions, affect attitudes and devour our future behavior. We must find a creative way to walk through our resistance to raise old submerged feeling, revisit them and then make closure with them. In order to do this, we have to leave our comfort zone and venture into our self. 

Take Away

The fear of facing our submerge feelings is not as damaging as continuing to carry the pain of unclosed feelings deep within us.

         Coach Bill

Saturday, February 14, 2009

Inner Values are really Core Beliefs; 4 Tips for Becoming Positive

Inner Values or better known as core beliefs are accepted standards, self-messages, ethics, inner laws, rules, and moral principles formed and retained in your mind from life experiences. 

Your core beliefs direct, influence and govern heavily all your attitudes, behaviors, feeling, thinking and how your reaction. Your core belief system is not always set by you. Because not all of what you believe in comes from you. 

Inner values or core values are the worth that you put on each core belief in your belief system.

For the most part, core beliefs subconsciously formed by others who you have an emotional connection or attachment. Core beliefs can be set by family members you care about, people you look up to in your life who you are emotionally attached to like partners, spouses, teachers, coaches, community, government or religious doctrine. Simply put core beliefs can be input into your subconscious by anyone you are emotionally connected to. It is emotions that allow other peoples beliefs to pass by your perceptual filters without being filtered.

Dark Side of Core Beliefs

On the dark side, your core beliefs can be set negatively by force, by people who have hurt and/or abused you. Forced beliefs are what I termed Abuser Values in my book, Separated From the Light, and can cause you to hurt, be mean, judge and sabotage yourself unknowingly. Understand that you cannot successfully do what you want to do if you are directed by negative beliefs that are not your own or you have not accepted knowingly. Meaning if you have no ownership of your core beliefs but you are emotionally connected to the person in a situation, positively or negatively, resulting formed core beliefs will slip quietly into your subconscious. When you do not have ownership then you do not have authority over yourself. Rouge negative core beliefs can block your success and happiness. 

4 Tips on how to change negative core beliefs

1. Stop, 

2. take a breath, 

3. list your core beliefs and their inner value (worth / 1-10) 

4. review them with a serious eye and replace them with new core beliefs. 

After Thoughts

If you do not know or accept your core beliefs as yours then you 
can't change them. 

    Coach Bill                                       

Saturday, February 7, 2009

Positive Movement without Confidence

The problem that is affecting all of many today is a lack of confidence.

Last November our nation overwhelmingly voted for change, a difference, a move out of the darkness of business as usual and all we have gotten is more of the same old establishment. The place that we are now in is the same as the last eight years, someone else is setting our mindset once more. Our new leader is now saying "it is so bad and it will get worst". Remember that our present leaders are the same ones that convinced us that "everything is good mindset" (last eight years) and now they are resetting our mindset to "the sky is falling".

When someone tells us over and over that things are bad, then everyone thinks it is bad and begins to produce negative beliefs, thoughts, and energy. Maybe it is possible the trouble with our lives is our lack of confidence due to our "mindset" that is being reset by others and makes us question ourselves.

We need to rise up in a quiet revolution and create a new path of mental discipline. Collectively think confident on a daily basis, join together in effecting a new silent change and movement will happen.
          Coach Bill