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Friday, July 29, 2016

Mindful and Intuitive Recovery: Tips for Healing PTSD & Addictions

Recovery from trauma and addictions is hard enough but if your mindset is not correct or positive then what is your direction. If your mind is left to its own direction, your mind tends to wander through all kind of painful and suffering thoughts. These thoughts are based on negative core beliefs that were formed during abusive, traumatic or addicting situations. 

Connected thoughts and associated emotions to those negative core beliefs that surface include anger, self-harm, cravings, desires, fears, depression, pain, revenge, self-pity, suffering and sometimes suicide. The mind left to itself does not always views or processes negative events accurately so your thoughts become distorted which results in you forming false emotions, therefore, you’re not perceiving what is going on in your body, mind or spirit correctly. Your perceptions and expectations seem to turn upside down. Safe becomes unsafe, real becomes unreal, causing you more pain and suffering. 

When your mind wanders freely your thoughts are directed toward the regrets, shame or guilt of the past or fearing the possibilities of the future that probably will never occur. Know that your past happened and is not happening. Your future is just a fantasy until it happens. You can’t fix the past and 99% of future predictions never works out the way you project, think or worry it will. As a survivor and addict, the one moment you actually can experience and effect changes in is the one you seem to avoid, now.

Meaning of Mindful and Intuitive

Probably you have not been introduced or have limited exposure to the concept of mindful or intuitive.

Mindful means paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, body, mind and spirit without being judgmental. 

Intuitive is a different way of interpreting, of a sensing who you are, how you think, how your body feels, understanding your feeling, why you react the way you do and where you with yourself without evidence or proof. Being intuitive is using gut sense to be compassionate and connecting with yourself, your body and mind.
Tips for Mindful & Intuitive Recovery

Mindful and intuitive recovery is being consciously aware of your mind, body, beliefs, emotions, spirit, and thoughts as well as your intuitiveness. 

Mindful and intuitive recovery is knowing how you respond to PTSD symptoms without any self-judgement. A question is "how do I make what happen to me and things I have to learn productive for me in my life?" In recovery being mindful involves always paying attention to your mindset, intentions to recover and “on purpose”. 

Mindful and intuitive recovery means having a conscious direction of your awareness. Sometimes talk about being “mindful” or “aware” as if these words are interchangeable terms, but they are not. Think of it this way. You may be aware that you feel angry or afraid, but that wouldn’t mean you are being mindful of your anger or why you are fearful. In order to be mindful you have to be purposefully attentive, aware and focused fully on yourself and your body as well as ready, able and willing (RAW) to change, not just vaguely or habitually aware. 

Take Away

Traditional recovery methods and separation of PTSD and addiction treatment have not worked. Both survivors and addicts end up with Post-traumatic Stress symptoms either traumatic experience or developing an addiction. Maybe alternative methods for recovery should be explored.

So successful mindful and intuitive recovery maybe a different method which might reduce the rates of relapse in both.

 Mindful and intuitive recovery is noticing what is going on inside you and around you right now at the moment. Being mindful does not mean you can no longer reflect on your past or future, but when you do you do so be ever mindful of your mindset. 

Mindful and Intuitive recovery and healing from trauma or addictions is an action not a state of mind.
            Coach Bill

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Wednesday, July 27, 2016

7 Tips on Why Survivors Seek Addictions

Survivors of abuse and trauma gravitate toward forming addictions for many reasons due to the intensity of their Post-traumatic Stress symptoms post abuse or trauma experiences. 

The following are 7 tips on what to look for if your are a survivor who is experiencing intense PTSD symptoms and are attempting to fight them, numb them out or suppress them.

1. Hiding abuse or trauma symptoms because possessing 
    these symptoms is viewed in mental health field as 
    weakness of character   

Reacting to abusive or traumatic post experiences was seen as a weakness of personal character, particularly in men. The non-traumatized population understood that addictions were a disease, so survivors pick up on it and realized it was more acceptable to have an addiction and be label for an addiction rather than Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) so they would not in their mind be seen as weak or damaged.                                                                                                                                  
2. To numb out emotional, cognitive, physical and 
     memory symptoms of Post-traumatic Stress Disorder  
Survivors discovered getting habitually involved in certain behaviors, emotions, substances and thoughts initially reduced the vast array of PTSD symptoms. Each behavior, emotion, substance and thought attacks a different symptom. This is a reason that 
many survivors have many different addictions. Once the effects of a PTSD symptoms are diminished, the individual is already into a severe or toxic stage of addiction.             

3. To fight negative thoughts that seem to originate 
    out of thin air  

First of all, “every addiction starts with a thought or set of thoughts.” Survivors find out that thoughts are his or her most powerful enemies as well as allies. So the survivors create and enlist addictions to substance or inanimate objects to eliminate the constant excruciating, upsetting and damaging noise of negative looping thoughts (thought addiction) which seems to surface out of thin air. This unwanted negative looping thoughts seem to surface out of a dark place in the subconscious and come racing into the conscious. This occurs due to a trigger. This trigger then causes a flashback or a memory related to a past traumatic experience.

4. To increase denial of reality through “gas lighting” self   

The definition of gas lighting is to undermine yourself or 
another's perception of reality. To create a false inner reality to veil any knowledge or memory of a past event or situation and what happened. The one main thing a survivor does not want to realize is that he or she was abused or traumatized and he or she was changed forever forming a core belief of “I will never be the same again.”  

5. To produce a false sense of security

Many survivors live in a constant fear of everything around 
them. Having addictions gives survivors a false sense of 
being safe, something to focus on and alleviates emotional 

6. To mask PTSD symptoms with addictions

If both the addiction and PTSD are not treated together, a resurgence of PTSD symptoms will send a survivor into an addiction relapse. Conversely if he or she relapses due to a craving on an addiction relapse to mask over the surfacing PTSD symptoms. 

7. To reduce re-experiencing of recollections of past traumatic events

Traumatic memories or flashbacks is one of the main and 
worse symptoms of PTSD. Survivors who are re-experiencing traumatic memories or flashbacks will attempt to control, 
fight or suppress these through addictive patterns, behavior, thoughts or substances. A survivor will turn to taking illegal 
or legal substances (alcohol or drugs or prescribed pain or 
mental health medication) to block out flashbacks (visual, emotional, and auditory as well as body memories) or 
participate in unhealthy behaviors (eating or depriving of 
food, pornography, self-harm, self-sabotage, sex, and/or 
excessive exercise) to mask over suffering PTSD symptoms 
as well as engagement in repetitive harmful thoughts and/or destructive relationships to block out hurt and pain of re-experiencing 
what happened to them.

Take Away

Not only does a survivor use an addiction to stop one of the seven reasons mentioned above but would enter into more than one addiction at a time to accomplish his or her goal to suppress suffering PTSD symptoms and hide the symptoms from the world. 

A survivor may even be juggling 7 different addictive relationships at the same time to resolve all 7 reasons above. 

If you are a survivor who has addictions it is important to face and heal both your PTSD symptoms and addictions at the same time otherwise one will counter act the other causing a relapse in one or both.  
        Coach Bill                                       
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Tuesday, July 26, 2016

3 Tips for Eliminating Emotional Wounds

Are you searching your past for answers about why your life is not fulfilling? Maybe you are still holding onto old pain. 

As everyone knows who has followed me knows I am a big supporter of making closure with past emotional wounds and regrets rather than attempting and failing to make than resolution. 

Closure to resolution is like “doing your best” as compared to “trying to achieve perfection”.

If you are not able to make closure with your past emotional hurts or painful events then those deep hurts stay with you. If you have not let go of them or have not gotten over them, they will revisit you constantly even without your consent. These emotional hurts leave a negative emotional charge or painful scar in the form of a regret on your core and the result is you spend too much time reflecting on your past. 

These emotional regrets of your past don’t allow you live in the moment. Your life passes by, there is no going back and can never be recovered.

Also, these emotional wounds that have not been dealt sometimes from childhood will cause you an inability to function later as adults. They will deplete your energy and spirituality as well as not permit yourself to move forward, have a successful relationship with yourselves or with other people in your life. 

In order to move forward in your life and grow, you need to make closure with your past emotional wounds.

3 Tips on Making Closure and Dumping Your Regrets

1. Recognize 

   Take time to recognize and evaluated by writing a list of 
   all your emotional wounds and the regrets connected to them.

2. Denounce

    Openly denounce these emotional wounds and regrets 
    by verbalizing that these past hurts don’t define you 
    as a person and that you are no longer giving them 
    mental space or energy.

3. Engage 

    Honestly, connect and interact with the moment. 
    Follow through on you promise in tip 2 then turn 
    your back on those past wounds and walk away 
    down a new path and never look back.

Think about this quote -

 “The inability to make closure with one world stops you from                        moving forward and opening another one.”
     Coach Bill                                           
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Monday, July 25, 2016

7 Tips for Reducing Effects of Emotional Triggers

The Trigger Experience

Every time you go through a triggering experiences you may feel symptoms of rapid heartbeat, like your heart is going to beat out of your chest, sweating in every part of your body, cold hands, and feet but hot body core, unusual smells for no reason, tightening of your throat, dry mouth and unable to say anything, physically frozen (unable to move) and unable to do anything, feeling dissociated, constricted visual field, quick onset of fear or terror for no apparent reason, emotional numbness, confusion, loss of the ability to focus, loss of the ability to concentrate, consciousness in and out, intense anxiety as though something is going to happen, hypervigilant, hyper responsive, hyper emotional and hypersensitive as well as a rapid onset of irritability it may not be what you think is happening to you. The experience is not a panic attack. 
Instead look the trigger as a clue of a forthcoming flashback or better known as a subconscious trigger response.

If you are honest with yourself and review all the reactions mentioned above, you will see that you are indeed experiencing a subconscious trigger response to a flashback rather than going through a panic attack. As a client said after reporting experiencing all those symptoms as mentioned, stated "my past is still alive and part of me. Everything triggers me after all these years."

Unfortunately the diagnosis of a "panic attack" seems to have become a knee-jerk catch-all diagnosis made by many professionals who are unaccustomed to the impact of Post-traumatic Stress symptoms and how PTSD mirrors many other diagnoses.

Definition of Trigger

A trigger is anything that arouses your senses and sets off mental, emotional, or behavioral cues and activates memories of past hurtful, painful abusive or traumatic situation. Triggers a particular to situations you have experienced. 

Triggers are connections between your conscious mind and the specific memories you have stored that have not been processed. Triggers revert you back to the emotions, behaviors, thoughts, physical sensations and reactions causing you to experience the memory the triggers are connected to and make you feel as though the experience is happening all over again.

Types of Triggers

Triggers set off a recollection of memory or flashback which transports you back to the event of her/his original trauma. Triggers are very personal; different things trigger different people.

A trigger can be a: 

Muscle constriction 
Negative self-talk
Seeing something on TV
Specific locations

Methods for Coping with Triggers

Now, the best way of coping with triggers is to avoid them altogether. However, this is almost impossible to do. Why? Well, you cannot really prevent your thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations. Much of these are out of our control. Regarding external triggers, we can take some steps to manage our environment (for example, not going to certain places that we know will trigger us), but we cannot control everything that happens to us. For example, you might inadvertently come into contact with a news story or conversation that reminds you of your traumatic event.
Because we often cannot avoid triggers, it is important to learn ways of coping with triggers. Useful, and healthy coping strategies for lessening the impact of triggers include:

Identify and monitor triggers by making a list
Increase positive emotions through positive activities
Intuitive techniques
Expressive writing
Muscle relaxation techniques
Social support
Intuitive breathing

Quick Tips Solutions 

Sometimes triggers are outside of your control and impossible to avoid. When that happens, though, there are some things that you can do to lessen the anxiety, disappointing, over-expecting, and negative thoughts and reactions that follow. 

7 Tips to Calm Emotional Triggers

Some tips which may work for you are to reduce the effect of a trigger:

Being mindful: 

Making yourself aware of where you are, in the present moment, and knowing that in that moment you are alright and can work to alleviate the anxiety and fear that has been triggered. 
You’re so busy focusing on daily situations that you forget to enjoy what is happening right now as they come. You sometimes become trapped in the confines of the day-to-day activities which cause you forget to be grateful for the beauty of life and the little things.
Being more mindful helps remind you that all good things come with time. It helped me escape the pressures of my job and embrace my writing without allowing it to consume my life, and it helped remind me to enjoy life again by tapping into the power and enjoyment of the present moment.
Using your recovery support system: 

Talking to someone who understands your PTSD and is supportive of your recovery, is a way to let go of the effects of being triggered.

Be authentic and honest with yourself: 

Be open with yourself and tell yourself the truth. Identifying the feeling you are having and what is causing them in the moment. Remind yourself you are safe now and not back in the situation as your traumatic event. Becoming aware of your fear and anxiety. Be mindful to know what is real in the moment and what is not so you will react appropriately. Positive self-talk or journaling when you’re triggered by unknown feelings, thoughts or situations can be extremely helpful dealing with triggered memories or flashbacks.

Remind yourself you’re not your triggers:

Whenever a trigger surfaces in your mind, merely identify it as a “trigger” and move on. You’re not your past or the adverse events you experienced. You’re separate from your triggers, and they’re different from you, so you do not have to respond or react to them.

Go for a nature walk:

Go for a walk and blend into the environment around you. Listen to the sounds, notice the colors of the trees, and bushes as well as the smell of the essence of nature. Nature will reduce the influence and impact of the triggers naturally.

Take a warm bath.

Baths can help you reduce your focus and put you in the moment by allowing you to sense the warmth and sensation of the water. It will take your mind off of the trigger that has surfaced, and a bath can help disconnect from your past, allow your worries fade away into the heat of the water.

Using intuitive methods: 

Intuitive methods of connecting with your gut use your senses to get yourself back in the present moment through intuitive breathing and intuitive thinking. Use your innate senses to hold a unique object, listen to music you like, smell or taste something with a strong scent or taste, take notice of your environment, count your blessings or hug another to bring yourself back into the moment.

Take Away

Being mindful and intuitive doesn’t have to consume all your time. You can efficiently use any of these techniques above throughout the day to decrease the impact of your triggers. These tips can also reduce your anxiety and calm your mind. Connect with the moment, and the connection will free you from your recollections of the past.
           Coach Bill                                        

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Thursday, July 14, 2016

Treating Addiction and PTSD Recovery as One

Troubled with negative thoughts? Well then, ask yourself the following questions.

Is your thinking negative? Are your thoughts causing trouble in your life? 

Do you find it so easy to focus on negative thoughts in your head rather than fulfilling and positive thoughts? 

Do you find the more your negative thoughts play, the more they affect you emotionally and mentally?

Here is an example. Say you feel like an idiot because of a dumb mistake you made at work. That triggers you to think you are "not good enough for anything". Even though you keep telling yourself you're an idiot or not good enough for anything zero changes. 
Why doesn't it? Over time your subconscious mind makes you believe the lies of your negative thoughts and become your truths because there are embed negative core beliefs that make you think that way. Thinking is a by-product of an idea, not the origin. 

Thought Addiction

If you answered yes to all three, then you a vulnerable to getting caught up in a constant looping of thoughts aka thought addiction. A thought addiction is thinking a thought or set of thoughts over and over again with the feeling of no influence or control in stopping them. A thought addiction can be subtle, mentally inconspicuous or power and can negatively influence how you relate or view yourself. In the end, this constant thought looping can have a debilitating outcome. Looping negative thoughts can have serious your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual implications as well as deplete personal energy and yourself your worse enemy.

An example of this is when you get a song stuck in your head. When you get a song stuck or looping in your head, it doesn't matter what you do it continues to repeat and consumes your thinking. 

Understand the more you recall or focus on negative thought or thoughts, the more powerful they become Repetitiveness causes negative thoughts to stick with you.

How do you know when you have such a habitual thought anomaly? Here are 9 indicators that will aid you in discovering if you’re a habitual negative thinker.

1.     When a thought or set of thoughts consume all your mental              time and energy

2.     When you are so consumed and focused on one thought or set          of thoughts that you stop experiencing your life and others

3.     When you find yourself breaking a promise to yourself to not            think a specific negative thought or set of thoughts      

4.     You spend more time in your head about the past than in 
        the moment

5.     When eating, and sleeping patterns are severely 
        disrupted due to constant thinking

6.     You experience increased anxiety and worry

7.     You are in fear of not having control of your thinking

8.     When a thought is more important than anything else in life

9.     When thoughts are ruining your relationship with you 
         and others but no matter what you can’t stop focusing                      on those thoughts

How to Affect a Positive Change

Being able to stop ruminating on negative looping thoughts or a thought addiction is not about eliminating or replacing those thoughts. It’s about discovering the root that generates those types of unproductive thinking. 

Now more good news. There’s a way edit your negative thinking by changing its roots. Changing the root of your thinking will result in strengthening neural networks which will be devoted to positive thinking and a happier mindset as well as producing improved mental health and more life fulfillment.

Here are 5 do it yourself positive tips you can put into practice right now to stop your negative thinking.

1. Write all your negative thoughts down

This first and more power step to improvement is recognition. In writing down your negative thoughts, you'll have to 1 identify, 2 become aware, and 3 acknowledge them. Along with articulating your negative thoughts note the beliefs those thoughts are generated from and what triggered each of you negative thoughts after each. Writing down all your negative thoughts, beliefs are based on, their triggers and precisely why you think they will be a liberating mind-clearing experience.

2. Denounce each negative thought as truth

Denouncing the truth of each thought nullifies the lies within. Then develop a sense each negative thought. 

Back to "you are not good enough thinking." Instead of ruminating over it constantly to yourself "I'm not good enough," drop into your gut or seat of intuition thinking and search your own sense of that negative statement. You may find your sense of the negative statement is the reverse "Am I not good enough?" If honest with yourself, you will discover your real sense, without any supporting evidence. See negative thinking is not based on reality but rather on negative beliefs formed while you grew up. These negative beliefs were the results of inaccurate statements or lies express to you from others. Avoiding negative beliefs, distorted thoughts, and false emotions, and going straight down to your intuition helps to prevent those inaccuracies.

3. Practice strengthening your resolve

If you feel tip one and two just aren't working? Practice, practice and practice some more. Recognize, the first step to healthy thoughts, by writing them down. Confront and reduce their power by denouncing them verbally out loud to yourself. Do it again and again until you get positive results and your negative thoughts lose their powerful ability. Lies seem powerful, but with practice, the light will shine through. If you have ever trained for a sport, you also have to teach your mind to think in a new and more creative way to perform better.

4. Don’t take it personally

Once you take something personally, you lose all clear perspective. Distance yourself from your negative thinking, by imaging you are talking to someone else. Say you're a close friend of yours who faces the same day-to-day barriers, challenges and negative thoughts. Ask yourself what does that person genuinely need, it is validation. Validation counters negativity and uncovers the lies. Realize what advice you would give a close friend and give that same guidance to yourself and consider it.

5. Don’t give up 

Giving up or giving in actually intensifies the power of your negative thoughts. Re-direct your energy by doing something physical. Switch gears to a different task or venture. For example, clean your kitchen floor grout with a toothbrush. Focusing on cleaning the dirt out of your kitchen floor grout changes your mental focus and energy. 

Your mind can’t fully think about more than one thing at a time. Maybe you should get up and move to a different room, take a walk. Encourage yourself to think about something else entirely. Your mind can’t focus on a negative thought once it's wrapped up in a new task.

5. Believe differently

Think new thoughts. To accomplish that create new beliefs which you can commit to now. Practice them and practice them again until they become a part of your automatic thinking.


Don’t be a slave to your negative thoughts. Eliminate your thought addiction by changing the root of, the origin of your mode of thinking at the belief level. You change your core beliefs, and you change how you think. 

Take back your powers of thought.

        Coach Bill                       
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