Thursday, January 26, 2017
Do you feel like you know your mind well? Are you in control of your mind? Do you think your mind works for you? If you answered is no to all 3 questions then you may be working for your mind and doing, thinking and feeling things you don’t want to. You just might be living by thoughts your mind is generating and if you allow it to keep giving your mind power over you then your mind might lead you into another addiction.
Have you had an addiction of some sort and find it hard to stay on your sobriety path or resist relapse thoughts?
Thought addiction (TA) is a hidden addiction that affects millions of Americans every day. TA affects their mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health.
Many addiction professionals work on the visible addictions not the invisible one. Thought Addiction can cause sleepless nights, addictions, anger, anxiety, fear, frustration, stress, digestive problems, health issues, troubling relationships, doubt, tight muscles, headaches and yes even death (suicidal thoughts)?
Most people enter into an addictive pattern to numb out pain (emotional, mental, physical or spiritual), ignore or reduce perceived health issues, (like anxiety, panic or stress), to enhance a perceived personality weaknesses, quiet a constant looping negative thoughts or generally feeling out of control. Example: “If I do ______ (blank) then I will gain control.” Initially there is an experience of relief from feeling, behaving, thinking or using. But repetitive engagement soon becomes addictive and then toxic.
Definition of Thought Addiction
The definition of thought addiction is the development and attaching to an intrusive repetitive habitual thinking pattern to one thought or set of thoughts to change yourself to be accepted, improve your performance of a skill to be good enough or both.
Thought addiction is the act of consciously allowing, feeding, entertaining or repetitively returning to a negative, critical, harmful or destructive thought over and over again. This type of thought or thoughts that does not serve you, decreases your confidence, wipes out self-esteem or worth and has long range damaging results to your health and life. What accentuates this type of thought(s) or set of thoughts to form is when the thought(s) come out of a hurtful situation where emotional charged statements comes from someone or groups you want to be emotionally attachment too as well as negative thoughts of generated by yourself about not being good enough or being accepted surface. Examples would be “I can’t be social or feel comfortable without drinking”, “I will not be acceptable by this group unless I act a certain way”, or “I can’t function through the day without using drugs”.
A thought addiction depletes every system of the human body. Repetitive and unhealthy thoughts can deplete a person’s emotional, mental, physical and spiritual energy, leaving the person with a feeling of no control, emptiness inability, not good enough or weakness.
Thought addiction follows the same rules and progression of all other addictions. Think about this statement “every addiction starts with a thought” no matter what kind of addiction.
A thought addiction or unhealthy thought looping can cause you to seek and expand into other addictions. Addictions such as substance, food, exercise, emotions or behaviors.
Consider this idea. Every addiction starts with a thought. For example: “I am not good enough, so I need something to help me” “This substance (thought, emotion, or behavior) will make me perform better, be more social, fit in, mentally escape, feel better or make me not feel at all”.
Once a person becomes sober, the original thought, which caused him or her to use, surfaces again because it was not dealt with or shifted so a relapse is possible. TA can also be the aftereffect of surviving any abusive, overwhelming or traumatic life event.
Forms of thoughts you can become addicted to:
· Anxious Thoughts
· Compulsive Thoughts
· Depressive Thoughts
· Diluted Thoughts
· Fearful Thoughts
· Obsessive Thoughts
· Negative Thoughts
· Ruminating Thoughts
· Self-defacing Thoughts
· Self-defeating Thoughts
· Self-limiting Thoughts
· Self-sabotaging Thoughts
· Sexual Thoughts
· Substance Thoughts
· Suicidal Thoughts
· Unwanted Thoughts
· Worrisome Thoughts
It is important to understand the influence and power a thought can have over you. A thought can affect your mental and physical health as well as these types of thoughts can become so overwhelming. As you know thoughts can be disruptive, destructive, and negative. These types of thoughts can go astray becoming very negative, overwhelming and even toxic. When caught in a thought addiction it can seem as though your thoughts have a mind of their own and you feel as though you have absolutely have no control over them.
Thought Addiction Assessment
Here is an assessment to help you to recognize if you are headed into or have a thought addiction. Stop and take this assessment to find out if you have an unhealthy relationship with a thought or set of thoughts. This assessment will assist in identifying and learning if you are in danger.
Take out a piece of paper. On the left side of the sheet, write down the numbers 1 through 20. As you read each question, put “Yes” or “No” next to the corresponding question number.
1. Do you periodically or constantly think about a thought or set of thoughts that alter your mood negatively?
2. Do you have difficulty concentrating due to negative, painful or seemly inappropriate thought(s)?
3. Do you have an inability to participate or function in your daily tasks because of a failure to stop a thought(s)?
4. Does a thought or set of thoughts keep you from feeling?
5. Is your thought content over 75% negative or do not serve you toward your ability to perform?
6. Does a thought or set of thoughts feel like they block you from succeeding?
7. Does a thought or set of thoughts keep you from investing in relationships?
8. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to self-sabotage your efforts to be happy, satisfied or fulfilled?
9. Do you have a thought or set of thoughts that cause you to behave in ways you do not want to (acting out, emotionally reactive, self-harm or addictive behaviors)?
10. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to reject yourself or not like yourself?
11. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause sleepless nights or wake you at night?
12. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to over use drugs (legal or illegal)?
13. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to under eat or restrict or overeat or binge on food?
14. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to over or under compensate perform in life situations?
15. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to hate or reject all or a single part of your body?
16. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to deprive yourself of something?
17. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to say “No” to social invitations or interact with family?
18. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to perform poorly at your job, school, social interactions or relationships?
19. Do you call off from work because you are thinking you are too “depressed” to work or just not good enough?
20. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to be consume mentally during the day?
Scoring the Assessment
Once you have completed all 20 questions on the assessment, add up all the “Yes” answers.
If you have four or less “Yes” answers, you are experiencing normal thinking. Your thoughts do not interfere too much with your life.
If you have answered five to eight of the questions “Yes” then the assessment indicates a low level or episodic of habitual thought looping. You could experience troublesome periodic thought looping. To gain a deeper understanding, you may want to review each question you answered yes, one question at a time to increase your understanding and what you might want to do to change your thinking.
If you answer from nine to fourteen questions with “Yes”, then you are probably experiencing moderate thought looping and maybe affecting you on a regular basis. Maybe you should address all the issues in each questions that were answered with yes and look at your core beliefs. If you find negative core beliefs and change them it would change your thinking.
If you answered fifteen or more questions with “Yes”, then you are in the high range or addictive range. You are probably going through feeling as though you have loss of control of your thoughts, experiencing distorted thoughts, obsessive, ruminating thoughts and your ability to function effectively is probably decreased. Your thinking is probably compromised. You should seek help and support to reduce their effects on your life. There is a good possibility that you could become more addicted if you do not take action. You might begin to substitute or act out your thought addiction by seeking secondary addictions with substances, drugs (legal or illegal), emotions, food, exercise, as inappropriate relationships as well as destructive or self-harming behaviors in order to subdue the constant looping.
This assessment can be your first step in understanding barriers in your mind that keep you from being positive and productive. Thought addiction assessment can help you identify problem area of thinking you need to address so you can work to regain control over your thoughts.
Mind coaching is a way to change the way you think by discovering the roots of your thinking and how to successfully move toward positiveness.
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Thursday, January 12, 2017
Everyone strives to create more power in themselves and their lives. Yet there seems to be things that stop them from accomplishing what is wanted due to unidentified barriers.
Here are barriers and tips on how to effect positive change.
1. Stop letting the expectations of others govern your life
It’s not what others expect of you, it’s what you expect of yourself that determines your path.
It’s your expectations that are what’s best for you and your life.
2. Stop focusing on past situations
It’s not your past which determines your future course.
It’s the substance of your actions in the moment that determines your future.
3. Stop wavering on decisions about what you want
You will be stuck where you are until you decide where you want to go.
Make a concrete positive action plan for what you want and create small steps to follow to get there. Take one step at a time until you complete all the steps in your action plan.
Take accountability for completing your action plan.
4. Stop trying to be and do everything perfect
Set a new mindset to allow yourself to do your best in everything you do.
Acquire new skills to help you do your best. Practice the new skills until you are more confident and reach a level of mastery.
Be comfortable in moving forward even though your may have doubts.
5. Stop avoiding issues due to negative beliefs
Stop ignoring issues because you believe you can’t make them right.
Your core beliefs actually determine how you act, think and feel.
Create new beliefs and passionately work to make them come true.
6. Stop looking at the negative things about yourself or negative situations in your life
If you focus on the past you remain in the past.
Look at what you have not what you don’t have.
Identify what makes you fulfilled and satisfied in the moment and multiply them.
Appreciate the moment because that is all you have.
Power of positiveness is achieved by looking at what you have in the moment, not what you do not have or what someone else has more of. Positive thinking, success and fulfillment arises from creating positive beliefs about yourself and putting positive actions into your life.
Focus on yourself. Identifying and practice the good aspects of your abilities, character and qualities which will produce an increase in your confidence and power. Follow through even though at first you don’t think you deserve or have them. Live in the moment and be mindful.
The more you practice being who you want to be, the more you will be.
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Wednesday, January 4, 2017
You do not have to be accepted by everyone. It is impossible to have everyone like you especially when you have difficulty liking or believing in yourself. Confidence is an acquire skill that you master, not something you are born with or not.
Here are 6 Tips in Becoming Help You Become More Confident in Yourself
1. Start with Believing in Yourself
Confidence is not acquired through the outside. You can’t have a sense confidence if you don’t believe in yourself. Believing in yourself is the biggest first step to achieving confidence. If you don’t believe in yourself fully then you will not support yourself in the work needed to be done to increase your confidence.
2. Stop Comparing yourself to Other People
Easier said than it is to do it. Appreciate who yourself and not by someone else opinion, thank goodness. You cannot be someone else so why don’t you just focus on working to be the best version of yourself.
Reset your mindset. You only have to be good enough for you. Acquire a positive attitude by having positive beliefs and positive thinking about yourself.
3. Stop Feeding Negative Thoughts
To gain confidence you have to have positive core beliefs about you. Positive beliefs are majorly important. Understand that it is your beliefs are what determines the content of your inner self-talk and thinking. Know that the more effort you put into eliminating yourself of negative thinking the more intense negative thinking becomes. Meaning the more you expect or think something bad about yourself the more chance it will be your truth. So if you think you are “not good enough”, “you don’t deserve anything” “you are not pretty” or “no one likes you” the greater the chance that it is how you will manifest yourself to the world through your emotions and behaviors.
Change that by changing negative beliefs, negative words you use. Your mindset, inner talk and thinking is governed directly by your core beliefs.
4. Accept Mistakes
In life you will make mistakes. Mistakes happen naturally all the time. Without making mistakes you would not learn anything. To strive for or desire to be perfect is an impossibility. So stop trying.
Accept a new mindset that things will go wrong from time to time. It is the lesson you learn from those situations that build a stronger sense of self and will result in a higher degree of confidence. The more you practice and practice believing in yourself the more fulfilled you become.
5. Don’t Allow Anyone or Anything to Define You
You are unique. There is not another one like you. You are the master of your identity and actions by how you believe in yourself. No one else. What others believe in you are just an opinion and nothing more and not always the truth in who you are as a person. Strive to be always comfortable with yourself, because if you are not, no one else will be.
Don’t disconnect from yourself in order to belong to a group or fit a mold others expect in order to be accepted. Create the person and identity you want to be. Or better, don’t over think your identity just be the natural you.
6. Practice, Practice and Practice Some More
Confidence in anything areas of life is a skill. No one is just born with confidence. Confidence has to be work at. Experience tells you that the more you practice a behavior, ability, skill or talent the more proficient you become and the more self-assured you are at performing that behavior, ability, skill or talent. Confidence is not universal, is specific. Meaning no one is confident in everything they do.
So pick the areas you need to improve your performance in. Once you achieve a level of mastery the happier, fulfilled and more satisfied you become in yourself. That is what confidence is.
If you want anything in life like confidence to have to work at it whether it in self, sports or career. Identity what you are lacking, acquire the skill and then practice it.
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