Finally an Answer

For decades, I have been searching for an answer to an unfulfilled question. I sought answers educationally, personally, and professionally. As simple as the question might seem, it is one of the hardest to obtain a useful answer. 

Here is the question: How do you let go? (i.e.: experiencing loss in life)

I have sought out and asked scholars, laypeople, and mental health professionals. The answers I got from most were “just let go”, “don’t think about it” and “that happened so long ago, forget it”. The problem is that the more you try to let go of something, not think about something, or try to forget something. The harder you hold on to it, the more you think about it or the more it surfaces into your conscious mind. No help there and doesn’t address how to let go. 

Recently, I believed I got a good “how to” answer for my unfulfilled question on “how to let go”. I receive this answer from a strong enlightened person. Here goes and I hope it helps anyone that wants or needs personal freedom by letting go of something unwanted.

1. Find a comfortable place 

Pick out a place you can be comfortable, and you can have time alone. With few distractions. Sit up in a chair with good posture, hands on your thighs, and feet flat on the floor or ground. Close your eyes, connect your body sky by mentally stretching up to the sky (good posture) and grounded (feet flat on the floor) to the earth at the same time.

2. Embrace silence

Spend the whole time in this exercise in silence. Silence will allow you to listen with the ears of your heart.

3. Bring up what to want to let go of

While drinking the comfort of silence, bring up in your head what you want to let go of. Focus on that something, an attachment, habit, thought, or someone you need to free yourself from. 

4. Use the power of your mind

As you are focusing, use the power of your mind and distract you focus 180 degrees and concentrate with all your mental power on listening to your breathing or your heart beating. Stay in your focus and silence no matter how hard it becomes. Bring your mind into your breathing or heartbeat. Don’t let your mind wander or allow your mind to grab onto your objective to let go and try to spoil it for you. Your mind's natural response is to get you to stop or fail. Hold your focus on your breathing or heartbeat until you feel your mind and body calming down, becoming comfortable, or going into a noticeably relaxed state. It may take some time but hang in there. The time will certainly be shorter than you have spending time focusing on want you want to let go of and not being able to

5. Affirm yourself

When you reach the level of comfort, calm, and relaxation you desire. Then affirm that you are free and will no longer be trouble by that something, attachment, habit, thought, or someone again.  

Open your eyes and resume your daily activities. Be proud of yourself and your accomplishment.