Self-Stories Keep Us Stuck: 5 Positive Resetting Tips
The stories we tell ourselves are powerful and powerfully shape how we perceive life.
Stories that form in your mind about yourself over time play a dominant role in every aspect of your life. The story you tell yourself determines who you are, how you and others view you, your mindset, your moods, and influences much of how you think.
You carry stories about everything. You have stories about yourself, your career, relationships, family members, and life situations. Probably, you even have stories about how everything you experienced and how everyone affects you and your life.
Your stories are influential to how you act, belief, feel, react and think.
Positive content in your stories can make you healthy. It all depends on the value you give the content in your stories.
The harmful content of your stories which you hold over time becomes your truth can make you dysfunctional or physically sick.
On the one hand, if your narrative is predominantly negative, then it colors all you do negatively. Likewise, if your story you tell yourself is positive, then your outlook on everything is positive. Yes, you may have a mixture of both, but it is the percentage of negative versus positive which determines which way you will act, believe, feel, react and then. Your story carries your strongest beliefs which you may not be aware of them until you write and then read your story.
Another issue you have to look at when viewing your story is the emotional charge which is attached to it. The more intense your attachment to the emotional charge in your accounts, the more influence, and power your stories have over you how you act, feel, react, and think.
Writing your story out so you can objectively evaluate your narrative from a neutral point of view as another person would see it. You have a tendency not to be aware of the direction your story influences you and what power it has over why you do, what you say, how you react to situations and thoughts you create.
If you are like many, you may say “I don’t truly know in depth who I am.” Look at it this way. If you don’t know who you are as a person, then it is excellent. Then you don’t have to deconstruct how you are. All you have to do is create the story in your mind of who you want to be and have the narrative to tell yourself that will motivate you toward becoming fulfilled, satisfied, productive, and confident.
If you write your story and you find out that parts or all of your narrative have too much self-defeating or harmful influence and power in your life then it is simple, create a new story.
Writing is powerful and helps you gain insight into the stories you tell yourself and others.
Here are positive and productive tips on how to discover what your story is and a way to re-author the account of your story to help you determine how you want to be. Therefore you can live a more mindful, fulfilled, and satisfied.
#1 Write on what is your current story you tell yourself about you. (Important, include how you think about your beliefs, your confidence, your feelings, your moods, your abilities, your character, your talents, how you fit in your social life and so on)
#2 Next read through and evaluate which parts of your story are right, correct or sound, and which are harmful, untrue, dangerous, or toxic parts of your story. Also, determine which parts of your story have the most influence on you.
#3 Determine in the evaluation process which parts you focus on and feed more.
#4 Start recreating a new narrative by thinking about what part of your story do you want to keep and which parts you need to change.
#5 Lastly, re-author your story. Sit down and write a new narrative for yourself. Within this new narrative, write about who you will be as a person. What you will tell yourself about yourself. Describe your new beliefs, intentions how you will act, how you will think, behave and feel, what are your skills, abilities, what new mindset you will have (positive and productive), view of your future.
Permission is Power
Also within your new story, it is essential that you write within the body of your story that you give yourself permission to accept this new narrative in all aspects of your being. Meaning believes the story to your fullest. Make it your truth.
Take Away
Once your new story is completed, commit to reading it every day for the first 30 days and then put your story into practice in every aspect of your story. The more you practice it, the more skillful you will become at it. Over time, you will master your story, and it will become you. Through practice and believing in it, the story will become a part of you.
Coach Bill
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