Answer the following truthfully with yourself.
Are you at war with your thoughts?
Does your mind support and work for you?
Is my mind sabotaging you at every turn of my life?
Anyone who has ever experienced a wounding situation growing up knows the truth about one thing and seeking the “Why.” Why don't I like or love myself? Why am I my worse enemy? Why do I fail at everything I do?
Believe it or not, it is your unanswered "why" questions which keep your Soul firmly locked in your past exploring and inspecting every memory you have looking for the answer. Your "why" questions won't go away, and you will not stop holding onto remembrances until you get an answer.
Diluted thinking is when the original facts and recollection of a situation thin out or become weak over time. Then of 100% chlorine jug. Dump a third or a half out and fill it full of water. Isn't the chlorine weaker than it was at its original 100% chlorine? Why yes. Same with your recollections. Over time they become weaker in power, influence, content truth and value over time.
Along the way, the “why” questions dilute into “if only" thinking. This specific type of thinking is mainly directed at doubt and remorse with "if only scenarios. The mental scenario like “if only I had done this differently, or if just I had this sooner then I would be _______ (Happier, more liked, more successful...).
Think if you have ever played out this thinking scenario in your mind?
You might have thought this to yourself:
“if I only was to get X, then I am positive that I would be the happiest person in the world.”
You work very hard. Through hard work, you accomplish the task, and you get X. What you found out was that nothing changed.
So you are told, “well you got X, so you should now be the happiest you have ever been?” But yet your answer is “No, I am not". But I have figured out that it really was not X I needed after all. I discovered that I need Y, and if I get Y then I will be complete for sure.”
So you work extremely hard to achieve Y, and you do. Once you have Y, you discover that it was not Y at all you needed, because for sure you think it is Z that will make all the difference in you, fulfill you and make you ultimately successful.
You work through that and gain Z, and still, you know even Z is not the answer.
Once in this cycle of "if only" thinking, it will continue on and on. You will keep seeking an answer by going to A, then B then C, so on and so on. Be healthier you need to break the cycle.
5 tips on how to turn off negative self-sabotaging effects of "if only' thinking and break the cycle":
The sooner you recognize that “if only thinking” will not help you get what you want any faster and that this form of delusional thinking is not really you. The quicker you make this realization, the faster you will become a much happier, fulfilled, peaceful and a more mindful person. Live in the moment and don’t become trapped in your past or unrealistically reaching aimlessly in the future.