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Monday, November 23, 2015

Announcement: Dr Bill has Gone Mobile



New Website

It has been over 5 years since I first opened my original Trauma Recovery website. Times have changed and so have my services and abilities. I am proud to announce that I have a created a new website to replace the old one. It has been remade to be easier to use and offered new context under Trauma Recovery, Addiction Recovery and Life Coaching. 

Click on this link - drbilltollefson.com to see the changes. 

Mobile

I am real excited because for the first time my site is now available on mobile phones, smartphones and tablets of all types. Mobile has been one thing that I did not have on the previous website. Please check it out on your mobile phone and enjoy the content that is available on my website. 

Type in www.drbilltollefson.com on your mobile browser and slide through all the content when you are on the go.

Tips

You are still able to download my second book Personal Philosophy as my gift on both the PC and mobile site, purchase my first book Separated From the Light and other products, my watch my videos on the drop down menu under the Knowledge Center tab at the top of the Home page, and read through testimonials from clients as well as connect to my blog William Tollefson Values.

I added a new page where you can investigate details on Rapid Reduction Technique©® and its possibilities for eliminating flashbacks on the drop down menu at the top under the Trauma tab at the top of the Home page.

My Mission

      “My #1 goal is to inspire people to make a change. 
Whatever you want to do, let me inspire you to achieve it.”

I truly want to thank everyone for the support and following me for all these years.
                                                
         Coach Bill
More information at website and click here to download free eBook.

Wednesday, November 11, 2015

30 Quotes to Mend PTSD


Changing your mindset of traumatic and abusive experiences is the first step to healing your past wounds. Regaining your personal power through knowledge and gaining command of your thoughts by shifting your formed traumatic beliefs makes all the difference in your path to recovery.

Here are some quotes which will strengthen your ability to make a positive change and reduce effects of PTSD. If you change your view and your symptoms will lose their power.

"Think it, see it, feel it, do it, be it and it will happen."

“The greatest hurdle in recovering from abuse or trauma experiences is the issue of loyalty.”

"Emotional abuse is the worse type of abuse because it is produces invisible wounds."

“The power of a PTSD flashback is not its self but rather the power you give it.”

"The past is the past. Don't find a way to stay attached to what no longer has any power."

“If you have survived abuse or trauma then you won. Celebrate your triumph!”  

“Abuse and trauma experiences cause an emptiness, a loss of self and addiction is sought to fill the emptiness. The action of reconnecting with self is your path to freedom post traumatic experiences.”

“Keeping the secret abuse is a barrier to healing”

“Traumatic wounds should remind your triumphs and not the predictor of where you are going.”

"I" should be your main objective in life. Once you feel your true "I", you can then manifest it out into your world.”

“Traumatic scars of your past makes you stronger and the person you are today.”

“A perpetrator uses the emotion of love as a leverage to veil your eyes, heart and mind in order to take your away the truth of reality.”

“Recovery has to be cultivated and nurtured to be the healing vehicle.”

“Your Soul is never damaged from trauma, it just hides in safety until it is time to return home and breathe life into you once more.”

“Focusing on your breathing deeply allows you to touch your Soul in the moment.”

“You have the ability to heal from PTSD wounds if you get out of your own way and invest in self.”

“Your formed beliefs from trauma experiences colors everything in your future. Change those false beliefs and free yourself from those shackles.”

“The most important job you have in healing from PTSD is to stay connected fully to yourself, not manage others or your environment.”

"Don't let your past experience define you, define you in the moment."


“There is nothing you can't have or do if you strongly desire it and are ready and willing to believe in you.”

“Whatever you carry inside yourself from trauma is you manifested on the outside.”

”Emotional pain from traumatic wounds will diminish if you don’t feed it”

“Awareness and knowledge is the source of empowerment”


“If only thinking” is distorted thinking which blocks your Soul from post trauma mending.”

“Trauma and abuse experiences produces a false sense of perfection as a way of being safe.”


 ”You don't have PTSD. PTSD has you” 

 “Triggers become raw if a flashbacks are viewed too much.”

“A flashback is a manifestation of a past energy you haven’t yet dealt with.”

“Allowing a traumatic memory to replay again and again is a form of self-terrorism.”

“PTSD symptoms are not a flaw in personal strength but a gift of the Soul to survive.”

“Awakening to your inner wisdom, inner feelings, inner thoughts, inner spirituality, inner support and inner love equals a fulfilled, healthy and propitious you.”


       Coach Bill                                                       
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About the Author:  Coach Bill Tollefson is a Certified Master Life, Trauma and Holistic Addiction Recovery Coach.  His passion is inspire individuals to achieve balance and get what they want out of life.
Coach Bill has authored 2 books entitled: 
Separated From the Light (A Path Back from Psychological Trauma) 
and 
Personal Philosophy

Wednesday, November 4, 2015

6 Tips on Healing Addiction and Trauma



Humans innately need to be connected to someone or something.

Believe it or not "being connected" is our life blood.We invest increasing amounts effort in forming and maintaining connections with ourselves, someone else or groups. Our connections, who and what we think we belong to, increasingly define our identity, happiness, fulfillment and status.


Without connection in our lives or when we feel disconnected for whatever reason, we experience a deep sense of emptiness, fear, loss and alone. We, as humans, are innately driven toward connecting to, someone else, groups or to community in order to enhance our well being and balance. When our perception is that we are disconnected from ourselves, our family, a group, a community or society emptiness sets in. When the feeling of connected vanishes due to a hurtful situations, painful experience or traumatic event our worth, esteem and feeling of fulfillment evaporates. Without connection our self-confidence dwindles, fears increase, negative thoughts surge and anxiety surfaces which leads us to believe we are unwanted and not good enough. 

Once emptiness emerges, a we feel a strong powerful eruption of a need to seek a replacement for the connection lost. No matter what, no matter how long it takes or what the consequences are we seek it. Even if it is toxic to us. Due to deep feeling of loss, we will attach to a replacement because it gives us a "new sense of connection", good, bad or indifferent. 

The substitute connection to something or someone takes away our thoughts of feeling empty and disconnected. There are others replacements sought such as inappropriate behaviors, false emotions, objects or negative and self-defeating thoughts.

The Result of Emptiness

An initial outgrowth of perceived emptiness is disconnection anxiety. Disconnection anxiety is a term used to describe intense hurtful feelings when a person is unable to connect with a feeling of self, a feeling of being part of a family or a group, being an integral aspect of the community or of value to society. 

This disconnection anxiety becomes increasingly prevalent with addition of more and more personal losses. Also there are issues that arise such as:

+ Tension                                                         + Fears

+ Confusion                                                     + Feeling less than

+ Surfacing of negative beliefs                        + Loss of feelings of worth 

+ Feeling of a loss of freedom                         + Feeling a loss of uniqueness

+ Feelings of discomfort                                  + Feeling disconnected from everyone 
                                                                             and everything


6 Tips on Assessing if You're Prone to Develop an Addiction  

If you suspect you may be experiencing an unhealthy level of anxiety or low self-worth associated with loss of connection with yourself or others, you might consider the following these tips to determine if you might be prone to form an unhealthy or addictive connection to something or someone.

1. Importance 

How important has the need to be connected to something become your sense of self-worth? Does you need to fill an emptiness due to a significant loss or trauma? Do you gauge “self-importance” by how much you are connected to someone or something even if the connection is harmful? Is the connection you turned to stopping you from doing other things that are healthy? Maybe your priorities have become skewed. Be sure to check where your self-worth is coming from.  

2. Reward Response

Does being connected to someone or something make you feel better or more in control? Does not being “a part of” make you feel worse? Be aware that you can sense a positive “payoff” even if you are excessively connected to something unhealthily. Do you connect to anything just to feel in control even if you are not? Impulsive connections just to get a reward rush can obscure the activity negative consequences.

3. Frequency

Do you find yourself interacting with unhealthy connections more often and for longer periods of time? If you feel compelled to always say “Just a little more,” carving out more and more space in your life for these unhealthy connections. The major question becomes, are you spending more time forming an unhealthy relationship? What other important, healthy, fulfilling or meaningful connections are you excluding or diminishing? Check to see if you are lying to yourself more than not.

4. Refraining
  
Do you feel anxious, afraid or excessively worried if you cannot participate in your unhealthy connection or even the thought of not doing it? One way to gauge how important your unhealthy connection is or the degree of toxicity it holds is when you consider doing without it. The higher the level of denial, fear, anxiety or pain you anticipate, the stronger the hold unhealthy connection has over you and the more you feel a loss of control. The more you stay in denial the more your unhealthy connection becomes.

5. Distraction 

Has the excessive focus and involvement with your unhealthy connection disrupted your life and relationships, causing interpersonal or personal conflicts over your unhealthy relationships?

6. Reverting 

Do you often say to yourself “I am going to invest less of my time in my unhealthy connection” only to turn around, defend it, spending more time or repeat the same thing over and over. This is an indication that the unhealthy connection you are involved with has become an addiction. Your attempt to fill your emptiness has now become toxic and can cause real damage to yourself, relationships, career and your physical, emotional and mental health.

Additional Tips on How to Change

If you are unable to follow the 6 tips above here are 2 rather simple tips. The first tip is to avoiding the possibility of seeking an unhealthy behavior, emotion, object, relationship, substance or thought to fill a feeling of emptiness is by forming a solid connection to yourself first. 

Second is to just reach out. Form a significant connection with someone else, a family member, a group or to someone in your community. If you do it will reduce the possibility of filling that hole with someone or something unhealthy that could turn out to be very toxic in the long run. 

Afterthoughts

Try working on identifying all the connections you lost and rebuffing your past hurts which made you experience anger, emptiness, feel less than or not good enough. Counter those effects of painful situations by recognizing them and then stop using them as a reason not to be involved with yourself and others. 

Ultimately, you have the power and control to determine what connections are good and healthy for you, and which are just not. You have the ability to produce a community of supportive connections that will add joy, , connectedness, happiness and content in the long-term. Being connected to yourself and others is what fills you with value, fulfillment and health.   

         Coach Bill
                                          

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