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Saturday, July 25, 2015

6 Tips on Eliminating Negative Thoughts



Are you inundated with negative beliefs or negative thoughts which cause you to stay in your head and ruminate all the time? Are constantly seeking ways to forget or stop your own negative thoughts that will not stop forming day after day? Are you just existing and feeling pushed down through your life? 

Negative beliefs about yourself seem to surface out of nowhere, causing your inner voice to become judgmental and critical, which in turn changes the content of your thoughts to be negative and finally steals your focus making you ruminating on your negative thoughts. They consumes your day and robs you of your drive and confidence.  This constant looping cycle is not healthy or helpful, but then you knew that already, didn't you? In fact, you know that you negative thoughts hold you back from what you want out of life. 

Trying to fight your negative thoughts off, forget them, ignore them or shut them down is extremely counterproductive. The more you resist a negative thoughts the more, the louder they become in your head. They also gain in energy and power. The more you attempt to stop the concentrating, over focusing or ruminating on them the more you won't be to forget them. Also your anxiety and fear levels will increase because you will feel that you have failed. Muscling your way out of a negative thought is next to impossible. It doesn't work that way. 

You do not have to live that way. There is a way to forget and break the negative thought therefore you will be able to entertain and create more positive thoughts. Here are 6 tips that will help you to begin to forget your negative thoughts.

6 tips on how to forget negative thoughts

1. Identify and List your negative thoughts

Your beliefs supply the content of your thoughts. Thoughts are directly linked to your feelings and behaviors. Thus, your thoughts dictate how you feel, what you expect, which dictates how you behave. All three (thoughts, feelings, and behaviors) influence each other simultaneously, but content of all three are governed by your core beliefs and your mind code. This is the central philosophy of the 30 Day Mind Changing Challenge. 30 Day Mind Changing Challenge is effective in reducing negative thought patterns through altering your mind signature or changing your mind code. Your automatic negative thoughts sometimes develop into patterns of thinking.

It is important to first identify the specific thoughts patterns you have before trying to change anything. Patterns are different from thoughts, in that, thoughts can come and go, but patterns tend to come back frequently. Some examples of negative thoughts that result from core beliefs are: I am so stupid (belief – I am not smart enough), nothing is going right for me (belief – I am not good enough), something bad is going to happen (belief – Everything I do is wrong), or I know I am going to fail (belief –I fail at everything I try).

If you are unsure or have trouble about what some of your beliefs about yourself or negative thought patterns might be, ask your spouse, family members or friends. They can let you know what negative thought patterns that you think are negative or positive, helpful or unhelpful.
These types of thought patterns are called unhelpful thinking habits which are formed from old embedded beliefs about yourself, which you can ruminate on in your mind. 

Types of thought patterns 

There are specific types of thinking errors that are common such as:

Catastrophic thinking is the worst thinking that could happen such as, “Something bad is always going to happen.”

Over-generalizing – “Everything is do goes wrong.”

Mind-reading is thinking you know what others are thinking. For example, “I know everyone doesn't like me.”

Predicting the future is believing you know what will happen such as, “I am going to fail at everything I do.”

2. Recognize where your thoughts came from that caused of your negative thought patterns 

Knowing where your thought patterns come from can help you identify why they keep reappearing. It is possible that situations from the past have resulted in your mind creating unhelpful thinking habits. However, it's also important to understand that you, and you alone and you are in control of the thoughts that pass through your mind.

For each negative thought pattern you have written down, identify a reason for why you might have this thought. For example, there are many reasons you might have a negative thought of, “I’m not good enough,” because you believe it about yourself from your mother used to tell you that I needed to get better grades but I never could. Over time a belief generalizes from “I am not a good enough student “ to “I am not good enough” and will affect every aspect of your life.

Remember to maintain personal responsibility for your thoughts, they are your own. Nobody can make you believe something you do not accept. It’s within your control to shift the original core belief to a positive belief and that will change your thinking.

3. Take responsibility for the way you think

Identify why each thought on your list is negative and the consequences for thinking that way is a natural. For example, if you find that your negative thought of “I’m not good enough” causes you to isolate yourself socially, have no confidence, or harm yourself in some way these are the direct negative consequences of your thinking. Determine the outcome of your negative thinking that have happened in the past when you had practiced your negative thought patterns.

4. Stop using negative language

Avoid using words in your mind such as couldn’t, won't and can't when it comes to how you believe about yourself. Giving permission to entertain negative thoughts will cause them to grow in power and grow within your mind. It will also cause the negative thoughts to increase in how they influence how you react to situations, producing negative results. Consciously make an effort to shift core beliefs with will and can. Accept the fact that you will occasionally fail, but see it as an opportunity to mature, learn and get stronger from your experience so you more clarity for next time.

5. Embrace change 

Not accepting change will prevent you from making a positive change in your mind and will keep you stuck in old patterns of thinking that life is out to get you, when it isn't. Embrace the fact that change is an inevitable part of life.

6. Practice mindfulness to nullify negative thinking

Live in the moment. Certainly stop living in the future, and surely not the past. You could spend all of your time in remorse or deeply regretting situations that you have already experience and are over. Also stop worrying about what may happen, so they miss out on now. Accept that you can't change the past, but that you have a large amount of control over what you do in the present, which will influence your future.

Take Away

If you adhere and practice the above tips then you can regain your personal authority. Know that you do not exist for your mind, you can be the master of your mind. You can guide and master the forming of your own thoughts. Start today and take back command of your mind therefore changing the direction of your mind from negative to positive.   


      Coach Bill                                           

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Friday, July 24, 2015

6 Tips on Empowering Your Mind


Are you just managing your way through your problems? The mistake about ignoring the problem is it doesn't always go the way you want. Sometimes, well … most of the time actually, you are not aware or seeing what is blocking you. 

Are you just living through your life? Are you inundated with negative beliefs or thoughts? You do not have to live that way. There is a way to create a pattern of beliefs which result in more positive thoughts.

Negative beliefs about yourself and ruminating on negative thoughts … these are not helpful, but then you knew that already, didn't you? In fact, you know that they hold you back from what you want. Attempting to ignore them or shut them down is counterproductive. The more you resist a self-limiting belief, the more power you give it. The more you remind yourself to stop the ruminating, the more you will think about it. Feelings of anxiety will follow because no closure has been reached. You can't mentally muscle your way out of a self-limiting beliefs or negative thoughts. It doesn't work that way. 

So what can you do? I would like to suggest some tips you could use to calm those beliefs and thoughts.

6 Tips on How to Harness Your Mind

1. Focused Interference

Set up a go-to thought to interfere and diminish the power of a negative thought when it crops up. Having an alternative good thought to focus on is better than letting your mind wander. Why? Because aimless mind wandering is directly associated with unhappiness. Allowing your mind unfettered control over where goes and what it focuses on is fruitless. It is better to concentrate on an idea, a song, a book passage, a quote or a specific task. Have something ready. Make a plan to immediately shift when negative thoughts or self-limiting beliefs pop up.

2. Choose to Ruminate Later

Self-limiting beliefs or negative thoughts are not like an unwanted visitor who comes to your house and you don’t answer the door. Research suggests stopping self-limiting beliefs or negative thoughts can be done by mentally setting up a “designated time period” so you can postpone your ruminating until later.

3. Face Your Beliefs and Negative Thoughts Straight On

Don't be afraid. Rather be strong. But understand this tip is not for the faint hearted. Face and deal with each self-limiting belief and negative thought. Determine if each is real or if they are an illusion. Research suggests that this process can starve off their power. These shadowy thoughts rarely survive the light of direct examination.

4. Be Mindful

Center your mind in the moment by focusing on your breathing or heart beat for 4 minutes or more. This will promote mindfulness, compassion, and non-judgment towards the unwanted beliefs or thoughts streaming in your mind. Being mindful helps to reduce the influence the unwanted patterns have over you.

5. Write It Down

Writing a curative method. Writing them down helps you to get those nagging unwanted beliefs and thoughts out of your mind and storing them on paper. This method also quells the repetitive anxieties, fears and worries of what might happen in the future which often accompanies unwanted beliefs and negative thoughts.

6. Talk to Yourself Out Loud

Actually hearing out loud your unwanted beliefs about yourself and negative thoughts reduces their power. In fact, you might realize the lack of logic or humor in them, and you will quickly stop holding on to them.



Afterthoughts

You are not powerless to these self-defeating, self-limiting beliefs or negative thoughts. If you follow these tips, they will allow you to gather up your personal authority, increase your mind power and become the master of your mind. You will, therefore, be able to command and create the positive mental environment you have always wanted. Believe in your ability. Commit to accepting and practicing one or all of these tips. Find the one that works best for you. Maybe you will find that they all work for you at different times. This personal work will allow you to form positive and strong core beliefs as well as create a different mind code toward a more effective mind signature. You can create the positive mental life you have always wanted.

          Coach Bill

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Thursday, July 2, 2015

Is Your Conscious Mind Real?


Consciousness, conscious mind or rational mind in a human has for decades been seen as the strongest part of the mind. It has been believed that the conscious mind has the power to give a human the ability to get things done in life.

The general theory by professionals is that your conscious mind controls 10 percent of your waking thought content and actions. Which infers that your subconscious mind influences 90 percent of why you act, fell, react and think the way that you do.

Definition of Conscious Mind

Conscious mind is defined as the localized center of conscious control. The internal mental region in the human brain which seems to govern your actions, thoughts and reactions through problem solving and decision making during waking state.

New Awareness

A new research by a San Francisco State research team over more than 10 years  your conscious mind has considerable less in control. Your conscious mind is far less powerful in your life than previously believed. Their proposed theory is counter intuitive to popular beliefs and appears to go against everything you have been taught or thought about what the conscious mind does.

Previous theory generally thought that the conscious mind solved problems and guides you to a course of action but from the research it does not. It was found that the conscious mind does the same simple task over and over. It gives you the impression that it is doing more than it actually is.

The research findings found in the San Francisco State study was that the conscious mind serves as a passive channel rather than an active force. It is far less influential and significant.

This new theory based on the 10 year research expounds that the conscious is more like the interpreter of messages sent from the subconscious mind. The conscious mind is the presenter of the information not the maker of decisions or the mind that acts on the knowledge. It seems that the information in the conscious mind is not created through the conscious routes. The conscious mind doesn't do as much as you thought it did. In fact San Francisco State study reported that the conscious mind is just the middle-man between the subconscious mind and your outside world.
The research also found “one conscious thought does not lead to another”.

After Thoughts

As a result of this new information that your conscious mind is more like the tip of an iceberg and the real decision maker is the subconscious mind or the mass of the iceberg below the surface of the water line. The subconscious mind is more influential and powerful than thought in how you live your life


Therefore in truth it is the subconscious mind that is the driver and regulator of your life. Within the subconscious mind is coded data accepted through your life which determines, influences and governs how you will act, feel, think, and reaction towards yourself, others and situations. When situations triggers your subconscious mind’s data, it send instructions to the conscious mind to interpret through thought and manifests a reaction outwardly by way of emotions and behaviors. So it is the conscious mind that interprets subconscious core beliefs, codes, data and messages. 

Therefore in order to understand yourself fully on why you do what you do, think the way you do and feel the way you do, it becomes more important to understand your mind code and the elements of your personal philosophy.  


      Coach Bill