Saturday, May 6, 2017
Everyone is troubled with negative thoughts or cognitive lies about themselves or situations or abilities at some point in their lives.
When the brain goes negative it can eat away your positiveness productiveness, creativity, and general fulfillment in yourself and your life.
Negative thoughts are harmless unless you believe in them. In fact believing in negative thoughts grants the negative content more influence and power over how you act, feel, react and think.
Whether aware of it or not the average person thinks anywhere from 11,000 to 70,000 thoughts or more per day. Incredibly 85 percent of people's thoughts are negative. Repetitious negative thinking trains the brain to focus more on the negative rather than positive thoughts. It is human nature to focus on the negative thoughts in order to fix them or make things right and take positive thoughts for granted. In order to be more positive and productive negative thinking, ruminations and cognitive lies have to be turned around by taking away their power and you accomplish this task through confronting or challenging them.
The key elements to turning around negative thoughts, ruminating, and cognitive lies into positive and productive thoughts are to 1) identifying and recognizing the negative core beliefs which are generating your thoughts, 2) challenge those negative beliefs by denouncing them, and 3) lastly replacing those negative beliefs (aka mind code errors) with positive beliefs which are more accurate and true beliefs. Shifting negative beliefs into positive ones end in a more positive inner voice also.
If negative thought, ruminating, and cognitive lies go unchecked then the result could be a thought addiction, stronger negative thoughts and influential cognitive lies that turn into fact and truth while causing false emotions, and inappropriate behaviors or acting out.
Distorted thoughts do not start at the thought level. If cognition is attempted to be corrected at the thought level then the mark has been missed. Thoughts are a byproduct of what is called negative core beliefs which are generated from one's mind code. Mind code is the accumulation of data accepted from life experiences and situations that turn into self-messages (aka core beliefs). If core beliefs are negative then one’s inner voice is negative.
Personal Philosophy Restructuring is coaching method based on the understanding that your mind code influences the creation of core beliefs or self-messages which feed content to your inner voice. Your inner voice then produces and governs the formation of thoughts which determines and manifests in emotions and behaviors.
To look at it a different way. Data gathered from life experiences and situations are accepted and stored in the subconscious mind (mind code, core beliefs, core values and core expectations). Subconscious data becomes conscious once the data passes into conscious awareness at the inner voice phase and thoughts are actually formed and generated through the inner voice statements. At this point, no one or the outside world can see or know what is occurring in your head. Thoughts influence and govern the production of behaviors, emotions, and reactions which everyone can see.
So, when you change your core beliefs to positive and productive which will drastically interrupt the sequence just described resulting in altering your thoughts and subsequently you act and react differently as well as feel differently.
Therefore if the data you absorb (aka mind code) from your life experiences is critical, hurtful, judging, lies, negative, or painful, your core beliefs will be self-critical, hurtful, self-judging, lies, negative, and full of pain and the end result will be that your behaviors tend to be inappropriate and not helpful in situations. Also, your emotions will be false based on distorted data.
What can be done?
Negative thoughts and self-lies are the results of formed negative beliefs. When you don’t have all of the knowledge of what is happening to you or why our thoughts are so distorted, skewed and negative, you have a tendency to believe them and they become your self-truths. Then your life becomes a burden and completely unfulfilling.
Empowering yourself with the first step of identifying and recognizing is essential. Here are tips to help you to empower yourself by challenging your core beliefs. To be empowered you have to face your negative thought and cognitive lies directly.
How to Challenge Your Negative Thoughts and Cognitive Lies
Answering these questions will empower you in discovering the truth of your core beliefs which are generating negative thoughts & cognitive lies.
How do I know if my thoughts are based on accurate and truthful core beliefs?
What evidence or fact do I have to support this belief?
How can I do to test my belief to find out if it’s accurate?
Do I have a trusted friend, loved one or family member who knows me well enough that I can check out my beliefs with?
Is this belief helpful, positive or productive to my life?
Are there other ways that I can believe about life myself or situations?
Am I too critical, judging, negative or punitive toward myself?
From my history, who else or what situations contributed to me believing this way about myself?
Are my actions, feelings and thinking really in my control?
Am I over thinking my beliefs about myself or over expecting to the point of being disappointed in my performance?
What would I say to another I was emotionally attached to expressing the same beliefs about themselves in this situation?
Do I always view the best in others and the worst in myself?
Am I doubting who I believe I am or holding myself to unreasonable standards?
Are my beliefs (self-messages) I have about me - 1. true or false, 2. real or illusion, 3. productive or unproductive, or 4. healthy or unhealthy?
You can challenge your negative core belief and self-lies with the questions above by making a list of all the beliefs you have toward yourself. This can be hard, because some beliefs have become so distorted, so ingrained, and so deeply embedded in your subconscious mind that they have become your self-truths, therefore, you do not recognize them as a lie or you challenge their validity.
When working on discovering your negative core beliefs and listing them try to have a positive mindset, be mindful, open and consider all possibilities. Simply doing this exercise can help you to understand why you act, feel think and react toward yourself and in situations the way you do.
Your listing of your beliefs can show you that your beliefs are not true, were made up judgments from others based on their illusions about you, not productive and are extremely mentally, emotionally and physically unhealthy. So you don’t have to own them anymore. Detach and discard the beliefs that don’t serve you and replace them with healthy beliefs which will empower you and enhance your life.
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Sunday, April 30, 2017
Living mindfully is about being connected with and living in the moment. Everything that you believe, view, touch, hear, feel, and think is made up of energy. Negative energy, as well as positive energy, can be accumulated and held onto causing dysfunction, self-destructive emotions, inappropriate behavior and a general negative overview of self.
It is well known that it takes more energy to disavow yourself of something than allowing yourself something. The loss of personal energy creates a hole. Human beings do not tolerate empty holes. So seeking a replacement becomes (good or bad, positive or negative, healthy or addictive) the main objective.
Knowledge comes from experiencing your energy in the moment and not getting lost in the past or projecting into the future. When you get lost in the past or focusing on the future all your energy depletes due to the amount of energy it take to be in more the two place at a time. Meaning on one hand attempting to live in the moment and focused on fixing what went wrong in the past make your energy vulnerable. On the other hand attempting to live your life in the present and focused on predicting what might or might not happen in the future also causes your energy to evaporate.
Many times in your life you modulate in and out of periods of energy loss. Why? You do not allow or permitted to protect and enhance your own energy for one or more reasons. Why? Because you were never allowed or given permission to think of yourself first.
To protect your own energy, here are 19 permissions you should adopt to be healthy and have a good supply of personal energy.
To protect my energy, you are allowed by treating yourself first
To protect my energy, you are allowed to protect yourself
To protect my energy, you are allowed to change beliefs
To protect my energy, you are allowed to believe in yourself
To protect my energy, you are allowed to be committed to yourself first
To protect my energy, you are allowed to spend a day with yourself
To protect my energy, you are allowed to not to fulfill others expectations
To protect my energy, you are allowed to not share yourself
To protect my energy, you are allowed to not seek others validation
To protect my energy, you are allowed to do nothing
To protect my energy, you are allowed to spend time alone
To protect my energy, you are allowed to sleep in
To protect my energy, you are allowed to find your voice and express pinions
To protect my energy, you are allowed to move forward
To protect my energy, you are allowed to stop holding onto people, place and things that don't serve you
To protect my energy, you are allowed to embrace yourself
To protect my energy, you are allowed to change
To protect my energy, you are allowed to be mindful
If you are not mindful of what you are allowed or personally have permission to do with yourself or in life you could lose more than just your energy. No matter, what your inner life is more important than comparing or being compare to others. Diverting your energy from yourself to obsessing what others expect, think or want from you sucks up the energy you need to live mindfully.
Turn it all around. Know what you are permitted to do or not to do. Take the ones you are not allowed to do for yourself and change by giving yourself permission.
Live a fulfilled and healthy by enjoying life in the moment. The moment is all you have that is real.
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Wednesday, April 19, 2017
Negative core beliefs create anxiety, critical self-talk, unrealistic thoughts, stress, and worry. All of these mentioned are a negative thinking pattern that can be contributing to your anxiety, critical self-talk, stress, worry and panic issues. Negative thinking tends to be a learned habit that can impact your emotions, thinking, and physical health. Since negative thinking typically develops over time due emotional, environmental and situational triggers it can be unlearned and replaced with more positive beliefs and views when the unknown influence of core beliefs are recognized.
Turn Your Thoughts Around
Turning your negative beliefs around involves recognizing, assessing their truth, and replaced.
First, start by recognizing how often you pay attention to and worrying about your thoughts throughout the day. It may help to start a thought journal and record your thoughts on a piece of paper as they come up. Knowing your thoughts will open you up to realizing your belief’s power and influence they have over how you act, feel, react and think.
Secondly, look at your beliefs behind your thoughts and ask if they are realistic and truthful beliefs of who you are. Try to look at the other side of the beliefs which result in negative thoughts. For example, if you believe that others won’t accept you due to your lack of skills, ask yourself if that is a necessarily true reflection of you really are? Do people only accept those who are completely flawless? Do you really want to be friends with someone who can’t accept you for who you are? By reality checking and disputing your beliefs you diminish their power and influence. Checking validity of your beliefs and doubting their truthfulness may begin help you to take on a different and more positive perspective.
Thirdly, determine where or who these negative beliefs came from. Is what you believe about yourself is coming from your true self or was it given to you through another’s critical statement or perception? For example, are you not good enough? If your beliefs did not come from you or are not a real vision of who you then denounce them out loud to yourself. Once their falsehood is realized and denounced, take them out of your mind, eliminate them from your belief system.
Lastly, replace these negative beliefs, expectations, perceptions, thoughts, and worries with more realistic beliefs, thoughts, and positive statements about yourself.
For instance, you may begin to think of yourself in a better or more positive light. Not everyone will accept your beliefs but your opinion is most valuable. Know that you are working on becoming a more compassionate, fulfilled, positive, and self-assured person. When you have made the shift in your beliefs that will eventually become your truths and you will realize more acceptance in yourself. In this way, you know you are based in your new core beliefs.
Accept that your thoughts are a byproduct of your beliefs and generated from your subconscious mind. Change the content of your beliefs from negative to positive. Once your beliefs are changed and reflect a true representation of who you really are then your thoughts will automatically change to benefit you. You possess the ability to change your beliefs and have a more fulfilled life.
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Thursday, January 26, 2017
Do you feel like you know your mind well? Are you in control of your mind? Do you think your mind works for you? If you answered is no to all 3 questions then you may be working for your mind and doing, thinking and feeling things you don’t want to. You just might be living by thoughts generated by your subconscious mind. If you keep giving your power over to your subconscious mind then your subconscious mind might lead you to another addiction.
Have you had an addiction of some sort and find it hard to stay on your sobriety path or resist relapse thoughts?
Thought addiction (TA) is a hidden addiction that affects millions of Americans every day. TA affects their mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health.
Many addiction professionals work on the visible addictions, not the invisible one. Thought Addiction can cause sleepless nights, addictions, anger, anxiety, fear, frustration, stress, digestive problems, health issues, troubling relationships, doubt, tight muscles, headaches and yes even death (suicidal thoughts)?
Most people enter into an addictive pattern to numb out pain (emotional, mental, physical or spiritual), ignore or reduce perceived health issues, (like anxiety, panic or stress), to enhance a perceived personality weaknesses, quiet a constant looping negative thoughts or generally feeling out of control. Example: “If I do ______ (blank) then I will gain control.” Initially, there is an experience of relief from painful feelings, inappropriate behaviors, distorted thoughts or emotional hurts. But repetitive engagement soon becomes addictive and then toxic.
Definition of Thought Addiction
The definition of thought addiction is the development and attaching to an intrusive repetitive habitual thinking pattern to one thought or set of thoughts to change yourself to be accepted, improve your performance of a skill to be good enough or both.
Thought addiction is the act of consciously allowing, feeding, entertaining or repetitively returning to a negative, critical, harmful or destructive thought over and over again. These type of thoughts or sets of thoughts that do not serve you decreases your confidence, wipes out your self-esteem or worth and has long range damaging results to your health and life. What accentuates this type of thought(s) or set of thoughts to form is when the thought(s) come out of a hurtful situation where emotionally charged statements comes from someone or groups you want to be emotionally attachment too as well as negative thoughts of generated by yourself about not being good enough or being accepted surface. Examples would be “I can’t be social or feel comfortable without drinking”, “I will not be acceptable by this group unless I act a certain way”, or “I can’t function through the day without using drugs”.
A thought addiction depletes every system of the human body. Repetitive and unhealthy thoughts can deplete a person’s emotional, mental, physical and spiritual energy, leaving the person with a feeling of no control, emptiness inability, not good enough or weakness.
Thought addiction follows the same rules and progression of all other addictions. Think about this statement “every addiction starts with a thought” no matter what kind of addiction.
A thought addiction or unhealthy thought looping can cause you to seek and expand into other addictions. Addictions such as substance, food, exercise, emotions or behaviors.
Consider this idea. Every addiction starts with a thought. For example: “I am not good enough, so I need something to help me” “This substance (thought, emotion, or behavior) will make me perform better, be more social, fit in, mentally escape, feel better or make me not feel at all”.
Once a person becomes sober, the original thought, which caused him or her to use, surfaces again because it was not dealt with or shifted so a relapse is possible. TA can also be the aftereffect of surviving any abusive, overwhelming or traumatic life event.
Forms of thoughts you can become addicted to:
· Anxious Thoughts
· Compulsive Thoughts
· Depressive Thoughts
· Diluted Thoughts
· Fearful Thoughts
· Obsessive Thoughts
· Negative Thoughts
· Ruminating Thoughts
· Self-defacing Thoughts
· Self-defeating Thoughts
· Self-limiting Thoughts
· Self-sabotaging Thoughts
· Sexual Thoughts
· Substance Thoughts
· Suicidal Thoughts
· Unwanted Thoughts
· Worrisome Thoughts
It is important to understand the influence and power a thought can have over you. A thought can affect your mental and physical health, as well as these types of thoughts, can become so overwhelming. As you know thoughts can be disruptive, destructive, and negative. These types of thoughts can go astray becoming very negative, overwhelming and even toxic. When caught in a thought addiction it can seem as though your thoughts have a mind of their own and you feel as though you have absolutely no control over them.
Thought Addiction Assessment
Here is an assessment to help you to recognize if you are headed into or have a thought addiction. Stop and take this assessment to find out if you have an unhealthy relationship with a thought or set of thoughts. This assessment will assist in identifying and learning if you are in danger.
Take out a piece of paper. On the left side of the sheet, write down the numbers 1 through 20. As you read each question, put “Yes” or “No” next to the corresponding question number.
1. Do you periodically or constantly think about a thought or set of thoughts that alter your mood negatively?
2. Do you have difficulty concentrating due to negative, painful or seemly inappropriate thought(s)?
3. Do you have an inability to participate or function in your daily tasks because of a failure to stop a thought(s)?
4. Does a thought or set of thoughts keep you from feeling?
5. Is your thought content over 75% negative or do not serve you toward your ability to perform?
6. Does a thought or set of thoughts feel like they block you from succeeding?
7. Does a thought or set of thoughts keep you from investing in relationships?
8. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to self-sabotage your efforts to be happy, satisfied or fulfilled?
9. Do you have a thought or set of thoughts that cause you to behave in ways you do not want to (acting out, emotionally reactive, self-harm or addictive behaviors)?
10. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to reject yourself or not like yourself?
11. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause sleepless nights or wake you at night?
12. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to overuse drugs (legal or illegal)?
13. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to under eat or restrict or overeat or binge on food?
14. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to over or under compensate perform in life situations?
15. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to hate or reject all or a single part of your body?
16. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to deprive yourself of something?
17. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to say “No” to social invitations or interact with family?
18. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to perform poorly at your job, school, social interactions or relationships?
19. Do you call off from work because you are thinking you are too “depressed” to work or just not good enough?
20. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to be consumed mentally during the day?
Scoring the Assessment
Once you have completed all 20 questions on the assessment, add up all the “Yes” answers.
If you have four or less “Yes” answers, you are experiencing normal thinking. Your thoughts do not interfere too much with your life.
If you have answered five to eight of the questions “Yes” then the assessment indicates a low level or episodic of habitual thought looping. You could experience troublesome periodic thought looping. To gain a deeper understanding, you may want to review each question you answered yes, one question at a time to increase your understanding and what you might want to do to change your thinking.
If you answer from nine to fourteen questions with “Yes”, then you are probably experiencing moderate thought looping and maybe affecting you on a regular basis. Maybe you should address all the issues in each question that you answered yes and look at your core beliefs behind them. If you find negative core beliefs and change them eventually will change the way you think.
If you answered fifteen or more questions with “Yes”, then you are in the high range or addictive range. You are probably going through feeling as though you have loss of control of your thoughts, experiencing distorted thoughts, obsessive, ruminating thoughts and your ability to function effectively is probably decreased. Your thinking is probably compromised. You should seek help and support to reduce their effects on your life. There is a good possibility that you could become more addicted if you do not take action. You might begin to substitute or act out your thought addiction by seeking secondary addictions with substances, drugs (legal or illegal), emotions, food, exercise, as inappropriate relationships as well as destructive or self-harming behaviors in order to subdue the constant looping.
This assessment can be your first step in understanding barriers in your mind that keep you from being positive and productive. Thought addiction assessment can help you identify problem area of thinking you need to address so you can work to regain control over your thoughts.
Mind coaching is a way to change the way you think by discovering the roots of your thinking and how to successfully move toward positiveness.
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Thursday, January 12, 2017
Everyone strives to create more power in themselves and their lives. Yet there seem to be things that stop them from accomplishing what is wanted due to unidentified barriers.
Here are barriers and tips on how to effect positive change.
1. Stop letting the expectations of others govern your life
It’s not what others expect of you, it’s what you expect of yourself that determines your path.
It’s your expectations that are what’s best for you and your life.
2. Stop focusing on past situations
It’s not your past which determines your future course.
It’s the substance of your actions in the moment that determines your future.
3. Stop wavering on decisions about what you want
You will be stuck where you are until you decide where you want to go.
Make a concrete positive action plan for what you want and create small steps to follow to get there. Take one step at a time until you complete all the steps in your action plan.
Take accountability for completing your action plan.
4. Stop trying to be and do everything perfectly
Set a new mindset to allow yourself to do your best in everything you do.
Acquire new skills to help you do your best. Practice the new skills until you are more confident and reach a level of mastery.
Be comfortable in moving forward even though you may have doubts.
5. Stop avoiding issues due to negative beliefs
Stop ignoring issues because you believe you can’t make them right.
Your core beliefs actually determine how you act, think and feel.
Create new beliefs and passionately work to make them come true.
6. Stop looking at the negative things about yourself or negative situations in your life
If you focus on the past you remain in the past.
Look at what you have not what you don’t have.
Identify what makes you fulfilled and satisfied in the moment and multiply them.
Appreciate the moment because that is all you have.
The power of positiveness is achieved by looking at what you have in the moment, not what you do not have or what someone else has more of. Positive thinking, success, and fulfillment arise from creating positive beliefs about yourself and putting positive actions into your life.
Focus on yourself. Identifying and practice the good aspects of your abilities, character, and qualities which will produce an increase in your confidence and power. Follow through even though at first, you don’t think you deserve or have them. Live in the moment and be mindful.
The more you practice being who you want to be, the more you will be.
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Wednesday, January 4, 2017
You do not have to be accepted by everyone. It is impossible to have everyone like you especially when you have difficulty liking or believing in yourself. Confidence is an acquired skill that you master, not something you are born with or not.
Here are 6 Tips to Help You Become More Confident in Yourself
1. Start with Believing in Yourself
Confidence is not acquired through the outside. You can’t have a sense confidence if you don’t believe in yourself. Believing in yourself is the biggest first step to achieving confidence. If you don’t believe in yourself fully then you will not support yourself in the work needed to be done to increase your confidence.
2. Stop Comparing Yourself to Other People
Easier said than it is to do it. Appreciate who yourself and not by someone else opinion, thank goodness. You cannot be someone else so why don’t you just focus on working to be the best version of yourself.
Reset your mindset. You only have to be good enough for you. Acquire a positive attitude by having positive beliefs and positive thinking about yourself.
3. Stop Feeding Negative Thoughts
To gain the confidence you have to have positive core beliefs about you. Positive beliefs are majorly important. Understand that it is your beliefs are what determines the content of your inner self-talk and thinking. Know that the more effort you put into eliminating yourself of negative thinking the more intense negative thinking becomes. Meaning the more you expect or think something bad about yourself the more chance it will be your truth. So if you think you are “not good enough”, “you don’t deserve anything” “you are not pretty” or “no one likes you” the greater the chance that it is how you will manifest yourself to the world through your emotions and behaviors.
Change that by changing negative beliefs, negative words you use. Your mindset, inner talk, and thinking are governed directly by your core beliefs.
4. Accept Mistakes
In life, you will make mistakes. Mistakes happen naturally all the time. Without making mistakes you would not learn anything. To strive for or desire to be perfect is an impossibility. So stop trying.
Accept a new mindset that things will go wrong from time to time. It is the lesson you learn from those situations that build a stronger sense of self and will result in a higher degree of confidence. The more you practice and practice believing in yourself the more fulfilled you become.
5. Don’t Allow Anyone or Anything to Define You
You are unique. There is not another one like you. You are the master of your identity and actions by how you believe in yourself. No one else. What others believe in you are just an opinion and nothing more and not always the truth in who you are as a person. Strive to be always comfortable with yourself, because if you are not, no one else will be.
Don’t disconnect from yourself in order to belong to a group or fit a mold others expect in order to be accepted. Create the person and identity you want to be. Or better, don’t over think your identity just be the natural you.
6. Practice, Practice and Practice Some More
Confidence in anything areas of life is a skill. No one is just born with confidence. Confidence has to be work at. Experience tells you that the more you practice a behavior, ability, skill or talent the more proficient you become and the more self-assured you are at performing that behavior, ability, skill or talent. Confidence is not universal, is specific. Meaning no one is confident in everything they do.
So pick the areas you need to improve your performance in. Once you achieve a level of mastery the happier, fulfilled and more satisfied you become in yourself. That is what confidence is.
If you want anything in life like confidence to have to work at it whether it in self, sports or career. Identify what you are lacking, acquire the skill and then practice it.
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Wednesday, November 9, 2016
The election can cause a lot of anxiety, stress and worry about the future. Over expecting can put a hardship on your emotions as well as physical well-being.
In fact, you can develop "election blues" which can make you believe that you don’t count and turn your mood into anger, frustration or disgust.
The experience overall can feel traumatic in many ways.
4 tips on how to mitigate the negative effects of the election.
1. Disconnect from Media
Disconnect from the onslaught of media and all the opinions. Yes, we all have to be informed but being over informed can put a strain on us. Too much information and particularly emotionally charged information can cause stress and worry. Out of balance of our emotional system can cause anxiety, anger, disappointment, frustration and discontent.
2. Get Up Off the Chair and Do Something
Just don’t sit around watching TV or computer thinking you will gain new insight or thing will change any minute. Do something, take action is the enemy of anxiety. So overcoming anxiety, stress, and worry is best done by channeling your energy and focus on being productive.
3. Take Time and Take Care of Yourself
When people get anxious, stressed and worried they tend to constrict their muscles in their body for protection and their breathing becomes shallow reducing the oxygen to their brains. Practice meditation, intuitive breathing methods to calm and reduce anxiety in your mind and body. Exercise is a wonderful way to reduce stress. Go out and take a walk.
4. Put Your Fears on Paper
Write down your fears on paper. By putting them down on paper you recognize superficially what they are and the process takes away their power. 99% of all fears never come true as you believe they would. Remember tomorrow will be different and all conditions may change making the fears invalid.
Understand that life events will change every day. Even though things feel so bad today it will change in time. Take care of yourself. You as well as the country is very resilient and we will get through this.
Have faith that things will change and what was disappointing today may not be tomorrow.
Monday, October 31, 2016
Sometimes it seems as though your thoughts have all the power. It feels as though your thoughts rule your behaviors, emotions, and reactions. Your thoughts seem to direct your life more than you do.
If only you had the power and ability to change your thoughts with just shifting the way you think.
So do your thoughts have that much power? Or are they influenced and governed by a deeper part of the mind?
There has been a huge misconception going on for decades which says if you think positive thoughts you can overcome negative thinking and move into positiveness. For years people have been focusing on and practicing faithfully positive affirmations in order to change negative thought patterns and shift a positive state of mind from just by saying them. Well, affirmations have not worked at all. Universally people are getting really tired of it. People have become very tired of this philosophy that just positive thinking can project them into happiness, fulfillment, and success.
To think that you can just think positive thoughts and your mind will alter those negative thought patterns and help you navigate through life's barriers is very misleading. Thoughts do not have that power unless you give it to them.
Realistically, significantly less than 10% of your ability to succeed, lose weight, overcome bad situations, make positive changes, stop negative thoughts, recover from addictions, form deeper relationships, achieve love, or find fulfillment, has to do with how you think.
Power of Core Beliefs
Actually, more than 90% has to do directly with your core beliefs you formed as you grew up and are now stored in your subconscious mind. You are unaware of that fact. Believe it or not, you have been accumulating, accepting and storing beliefs into your subconscious mind over your lifetime. Really it is these stored core beliefs which directly influence and govern how you form your thoughts and how you think.
In order to make a substantial change to how you think you have to understand how your mind works.
Over 90 percent of all your thoughts are formed and govern by your core beliefs. These beliefs, unknown to you, embedded themselves in your subconscious mind.
A majority of your thoughts today are directed by your core beliefs from your past. The content of your thoughts and degree of happiness, fulfillment, and success equal to now you believe about yourself.
Thought is the Direct Result of Your Mind Algorithms
Let’s look at how your get the thoughts generate.
Your beliefs actually are formed from what is termed mind code. Your mind code is what really determines who you are, how you behave, your emotions are expressed, how you sense and how you reacts. Very importantly mind code is where your identity originates.
Mind code is data your brain gathers every day of your life from situations you go through. Think of mind code as a mind algorithm. An algorithm is a step by step instructions of how your mind will operate. The mind code data is then converted into your belief system or what is termed personal philosophy.
A mind algorithm is very similar to a computer algorithm. In a computer, it is the algorithms that tell the computer and program how to function. If the computer algorithms get changed like through a virus then the computer reacts differently or doesn’t work at all. The same is true with mind algorithms. If the mind accepts negative data from experiences, it then produces negative beliefs and in turn, generates negative thoughts.
An example of the above is if you experience a hurtful situation that causes you to form a negative core belief that you are let’s say “not good enough”, you will think you are not good enough and not know why you are negative toward yourself.
Then your core beliefs feed content to your inner voice. It is the content of your inner voice that greatly influences and governs the formation, flavor, and direction of your thoughts.
So the powers your think your thoughts have doesn’t start at the thinking level. That is why positive affirmations do not work. The power is in your mind code and core beliefs which are completely unknown to your consciousness until they are triggered and surface into your inner voice.
It is your mind code that ultimately decides how you will act, feel, interact and think about yourself, others and how you will react in life situations.
If you really want to change how your thoughts you need to change your core beliefs. Creating new core beliefs will change your old mind algorithms.
Below is six tips on how to shift your negative core beliefs to positive core beliefs.
6 Tips Accessing Your Powers of Thought by Changing
Your Core Beliefs
Let's get started regaining your power.
1. Believing that you have the power to create positive habits. The truth is, it’s just as easy to create positive habits as it is to create negative ones. It’s just a matter of how you spend your time. You can spend your time believing things you are not or create new beliefs that bring you closer to what you want to believe in. Or you can submit to old beliefs that do not serve you that have proven unsuccessful.
Thinking negatively can become an addiction. People complain, “It’s too hard to keep my energy up thinking in what is good for me!” Really it’s not hard – it’s just that people get into the habit of thinking negatively. Over time it is easier to think negative than positive.
If this sounds like you, break the habit. Realize that you are where you are because of the way you believed and thought in the past. Yet your future depends on how you believe and think today. You can choose to stay in negative thinking, or you create a totally new set of beliefs that will produce totally different thinking. You can choose to watch another sitcom, or you can choose to read another chapter in a great book.
Honestly, you can choose to act on opportunity, or you can choose to focus on barriers and triumph over them. There’s nothing hard or complicated about it, other than the way you’re thinking based on old negative core beliefs and thinking that no longer serve you or the direction in your life.
2. Ruminating on everything, over and over again. Lack of confidence and discipline, mixed with over expecting rapid success and negative beliefs, fuels a habit of negative thoughts. Many studies suggest that ruminating is a mental handicap: rather than risk failure. Studies state that preferring to respond to and indulge in beliefs formed long ago create barriers to success and make it next to impossible get rid of negative beliefs and thoughts. Continuing to focus repeatedly forms a vicious cycle of distortion.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to break this cycle – stop saying “I can’t,” start saying “I can,” and then put the “can” into action. Stop fearing something will probably won’t happen in your life.
Thinking isn’t enough; you must apply! Building a strong belief system is which will determine the content of your thinking. Just thinking about success will not change your life; you must DO! If you can’t change all beliefs at once change a few at a time. Changing a few beliefs will add up. A positive belief system built over time, in small increments, tends to create a change in your thinking that lasts for a long time.
3. Comparing yourself to others, and then harboring bitterness or resentment. Negative thinking people believe someone else’s good fortune takes away from their own. They believe they are not good enough to deserve fulfillment or success. This leads to bitterness and resentment. Don’t let bitterness, hurt or jealousy get the best of you. Bitterness is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own – there’s nothing attractive or beneficial about believing this way. So stop comparing your journey with everyone else’s.
Your life is your life. Living isn’t a competition. Just believe you are the best you can be. If you want to measure your improvement, compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Become more mindful.
4. Self-doubt fuels negativity and withdrawal. A mind is an awesome tool if used right, but it can be a negativity conduit that fills your thoughts with doubt if you allow it. Any uncomfortable thinking should be denounced and rejected. Don’t accept negative beliefs or thoughts. Don’t allow your mind get the best of you.
Believe in yourself through tough times. Believe in your capacity to flourish. Believe making new connections are worth the effort. Believe strongly that you make mistakes on your way to greatness. Believe you can be thoughtless and intelligent, selfish and gracious, stressed and excited all at the same time. Believe there are many roads to what’s right. Most of all believe in your intuition, especially when you have to choose between two good paths. Believe the answers are within you and do not originate from outside you. Believe life will surprise you over and over again. Believe your experiences along the way are part of your journey.
Those who don’t have resilient and positive beliefs think they will be full of self-doubt and won’t find their inner strength.
5. Don’t put yourself down. There are enough people out there to put you down due to their own negative beliefs. Begin with forming compassion toward yourself. Compassion simply is a keen emotional understanding of the situations you have experienced and how you have gotten you to where you have gotten to.
Believe that you can overcome anything with the right action and your thinking will fall in line.
6. Recognize your beliefs. To affect change you have to recognize your core beliefs in order to correct them. Your core beliefs are the windows of your mind code. Meaning if you make the effort to recognize the bad beliefs you carry and change them then your life will change for the better.
So write down a list of all your core beliefs and self-messages you have about yourself. Study the list and determine whether each one is true or false, real or delusional, yours or someone else’s. Finally, determine what kind of emotion each belief produces when you become aware of them. For every belief that is false, delusional, accepted from someone else and produces a negative emotion, then write a new positive belief to counteract it. Mindfully accept each new belief into your belief system and attach a strong positive emotion to each. Read your new list daily. Especially first thing in the morning and the just before you fall asleep when your mind is most pliable to accept new beliefs. Then watch your thoughts change.
You can't think yourself to greatness but with a solid positive core belief system, you can accomplish anything you want.
Follow tip #6 above and create a new skill set. This new skill set will produce a change in your thinking and manifest into a positive change in your behaviors and emotions. The end positively completing tip #6 will result in a new you!
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Tuesday, August 2, 2016
Everyone wants to have positive thinking.
Thinking generates your thoughts. If your thinking is negative then thoughts are negative.
Your thoughts are very important and carry a lot of conscious power and influence over your waking life.
Unfortunately, it seems as though the way you think comes out of thin air but they really don’t.
Here is what your thinking determines.
1. Thinking determines, directs, and influences your degree of awareness.
2. Thinking determines your emotions. How you feel. Whether your thinking is good or bad, happy or sad.
3. Thinking determines how well you focus. Whether you focus
on the past, the moment or into the future.
4. Thinking determines how you view yourself. Your
self-worth, confidence, and identity.
5. Thinking determines how you view your value and your
worth in degree to someone or something else.
6. Thinking determines how you perceive others and the
world around you.
7. Thoughts determine the type of relationships you have
with yourself and someone else.
Origin of Thinking
Since you are not totally aware of where your thinking comes from it is good to understand where your thinking originates. Your thinking is actually generated from your core beliefs. Your core beliefs reside deep from within your subconscious mind. Your core beliefs are formed from your experiences you have growing up. So in order to change your thinking from negative to positive you have to become aware of what you truly believe in. If your subconscious core beliefs are not positive then neither is your thinking process.
5 tips changing to positive thinking
So what is the secret toward changing your thinking to positive? If you change your core beliefs to positive beliefs then you will change the content and focus of your thoughts.
Here 5 tips to accomplish changing negative thinking into positiveness, productive and beneficial thinking.
First of all you cannot fix what you’re aware. So recognition is your first and most important step to changing your thinking.
On a piece of paper, write down all your beliefs you have about yourself, others and the world; good and bad, insignificant or significant, large or small. Also note the emotion that is associated with each core belief you list.
In this step determine each belief in your list whether each belief is actually your truth or not? Identify whether each belief you recognized on your listed is real or a lie, positive or negative, productive or destructive.
Then draw a straight line through the beliefs that are not true, not real, negative and destructive or not your own (meaning you were taught that belief and got it from someone else). Those marked core beliefs are the ones that are barriers to positiveness and counterproductive to the way you want to think.
3. Create anew
The third step is creating new list of beliefs about yourself that you want to believe and are willing to commit tom as your truth. Next to each lined out negative belief, create a positive beliefs and write it down next to old negative core belief you want to replace.
To make sure each belief embeds itself assign a positive emotion to each new positive core belief. If you do not create new beliefs with an associated emotion and consistently work to replace the old ones your mind will continue to generate the same old useless, unproductive or destructive thinking.
4. Practice, practice and practice so more
Last step is to shift your mind to focus and accept the new positive core beliefs over old negative core beliefs.
How do you do this? You accomplish this by practicing acceptance through repeating your new positive core beliefs list out loud to yourself 5 times daily, every day for 30 days and feel the associated emotion when you verbalize each new belief.
It is most important to say your new positive core beliefs list daily. Repeat them first time when you wake up in the morning and then the last time before you close your eyes to go to sleep. Also say them throughout your day whenever you can. To make your new positive core beliefs more powerful, say your new beliefs with the feeling assigned to each belief in step 3 and do it with a strong emotional tone in your voice.
Saying the list every day for 30 days and you follow through with practicing the new positive core beliefs daily the new beliefs will embed themselves into your subconscious mind and the new ones will replace the old ones. Also the beliefs will become your mind’s truth and your thinking will respond positive automatically.
5. Be observant
Become mindful of your thinking by monitoring your thoughts after the 30 days of continuous practice. Acknowledge when your new positive beliefs start to manifest themselves into positive thinking.
How will you know that? You will be told by other people in your life that you seem different, you're thinking differently or you will become mindful of the difference in your thinking.
Once you recognize the origin of your negative thinking, meaning recognizing your core beliefs that are destructive, false, negative, not real, not your own or unproductive and that your old thinking was generated from those old negative beliefs then the power to change your thinking is yours.
Don’t be a slave to old negative thinking based on your old negative core beliefs anymore. When you change the content of your core beliefs you then hold the ability to influence and determine the flavor and content of your thinking going forward.
Empower positive thinking by invoking and manifesting your new core beliefs that you have created, accepted, believe in and have committed to.
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Friday, July 29, 2016
Recovery from trauma and addictions is hard enough but if your mindset is not correct or positive then what is your direction. If your mind is left to its own direction, your mind tends to wander through all kind of painful and suffering thoughts. These thoughts are based on negative core beliefs that were formed during abusive, traumatic or addicting situations.
Connected thoughts and associated emotions to those negative core beliefs that surface include anger, self-harm, cravings, desires, fears, depression, pain, revenge, self-pity, suffering and sometimes suicide. The mind left to itself does not always views or processes negative events accurately so your thoughts become distorted which results in you forming false emotions therefore you’re not perceiving what is going on in your body, mind or spirit correctly. Your perceptions and expectations seem to turn upside down. Safe becomes unsafe, real becomes unreal, causing you more pain and suffering.
When your mind wanders freely your thoughts are directed toward the regrets, shame or guilt of the past or fearing the possibilities of the future that probably will never occur. Know that your past happened and is not happening. Your future is just a fantasy until it happens. You can’t fix the past and 99% of future predictions never works out the way you project, think or worry it will. As a survivor and addict, the one moment you actually can experience and effect changes in is the one you seem to avoid, now.
Meaning of Mindful and Intuitive
Probably you have not been introduced or have limited exposure to the concept of mindful or intuitive.
Mindful means paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, body, mind and spirit without being judgmental.
Intuitive is a different way of interpreting, of sensing who you are, how you think, how your body feels, understanding your feeling, why you react the way you do and where you with yourself without evidence or proof. Being intuitive is using gut sense to be compassionate and connecting with yourself, your body and mind.
Mindful and intuitive recovery is being consciously aware of your mind, body, beliefs, emotions, spirit and thoughts as well as your intuitiveness.
Mindful and intuitive recovery is knowing how you respond to PTSD symptoms without any self-judgement. Question is "how do I make what happen to me and things I have learn productive for me in my life?" In recovery being mindful involves always paying attention to your mindset, intentions to recover and “on purpose”.
Mindful and intuitive recovery means having a conscious direction of your awareness. Sometimes talk about being “mindful” or “aware” as if these words are interchangeable terms, but they are not. Think of it this way. You maybe aware that you feeling angry or afraid, but that wouldn’t mean you are being mindful of your anger or why you are fearful. In order to be mindful you have to be purposefully attentive, aware and focused fully on yourself and your body as well as ready, able and willing (RAW) to change, not just vaguely or habitually aware.
Traditional recovery methods and separation of PTSD and addiction treatment has not worked. Both survivors and addicts end up with Post-traumatic Stress symptoms. Maybe alternative methods for recovery should be explored.
So successful mindful and intuitive recovery maybe a different method which might reduce the rates of relapse in both.
Mindful and intuitive recovery is noticing what is going on inside you and around you right now in the moment. Being mindful does not mean you can no longer reflect on your past or future, but when you do you do so be ever mindful of your mindset.
Mindful and intuitive recovery and healing from trauma or addictions is an action not a state of mind.
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Wednesday, July 27, 2016
The following are 7 tips on what to look for if your are a survivor who is experiencing intense PTSD symptoms and are attempting to fight them, numb them out or suppress them.
1. Hiding abuse or trauma symptoms because possessing
these symptoms is viewed in mental health field as
weakness of character
Reacting to abusive or traumatic post experiences was seen as a weakness of personal character, particularly in men. The non-traumatized population understood that addictions were a disease, so survivors pick up on it and realized it was more acceptable to have an addiction and be label for an addiction rather than Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) so they would not in their mind be seen as weak or damaged.
2. To numb out emotional, cognitive, physical and
memory symptoms of Post-traumatic Stress Disorder
Survivors discovered getting habitually involved in certain behaviors, emotions, substances and thoughts initially reduced the vast array of PTSD symptoms. Each behavior, emotion, substance and thought attacks a different symptom. This is a reason that
many survivors have many different addictions. Once the effects of a PTSD symptoms are diminished, the individual is already into a severe or toxic stage of addiction.
3. To fight negative thoughts that seem to originate
out of thin air
First of all, “every addiction starts with a thought or set of thoughts.” Survivors find out that thoughts are his or her most powerful enemies as well as allies. So the survivors create and enlist addictions to substance or inanimate objects to eliminate the constant excruciating, upsetting and damaging noise of negative looping thoughts (thought addiction) which seems to surface out of thin air. This unwanted negative looping thoughts seem to surface out of a dark place in the subconscious and come racing into the conscious. This occurs due to a trigger. This trigger then causes a flashback or a memory related to a past traumatic experience.
4. To increase denial of reality through “gas lighting” self
The definition of gas lighting is to undermine yourself or
another's perception of reality. To create a false inner reality to veil any knowledge or memory of a past event or situation and what happened. The one main thing a survivor does not want to realize is that he or she was abused or traumatized and he or she was changed forever forming a core belief of “I will never be the same again.”
5. To produce a false sense of security
Many survivors live in a constant fear of everything around
them. Having addictions gives survivors a false sense of
being safe, something to focus on and alleviates emotional
6. To mask PTSD symptoms with addictions
If both the addiction and PTSD are not treated together, a resurgence of PTSD symptoms will send a survivor into an addiction relapse. Conversely if he or she relapses due to a craving on an addiction relapse to mask over the surfacing PTSD symptoms.
7. To reduce re-experiencing of recollections of past traumatic events
Traumatic memories or flashbacks is one of the main and
worse symptoms of PTSD. Survivors who are re-experiencing traumatic memories or flashbacks will attempt to control,
fight or suppress these through addictive patterns, behavior, thoughts or substances. A survivor will turn to taking illegal
or legal substances (alcohol or drugs or prescribed pain or
mental health medication) to block out flashbacks (visual, emotional, and auditory as well as body memories) or
participate in unhealthy behaviors (eating or depriving of
food, pornography, self-harm, self-sabotage, sex, and/or
excessive exercise) to mask over suffering PTSD symptoms
as well as engagement in repetitive harmful thoughts and/or destructive relationships to block out hurt and pain of re-experiencing
what happened to them.
Not only does a survivor use an addiction to stop one of the seven reasons mentioned above but would enter into more than one addiction at a time to accomplish his or her goal to suppress suffering PTSD symptoms and hide the symptoms from the world.
A survivor may even be juggling 7 different addictive relationships at the same time to resolve all 7 reasons above.
If you are a survivor who has addictions it is important to face and heal both your PTSD symptoms and addictions at the same time otherwise one will counter act the other causing a relapse in one or both.