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Tuesday, October 3, 2017

Power of Thoughts: Mind Change Tips

Everyone is dissatisfied with negative thoughts. Who won't be? Everyone strives for change and creating happy, positive and productive thoughts. Many articles have been written about how to turn thoughts on to off, negative to positive and sad to happy. One technique does not work for everyone and there is absolutely no pill in the world that can accomplish this wanted task. Change of thoughts is a personal endeavor. 

So how do you actually change your stream of thoughts? Well, there are four keys to accomplishing a significant this task in the way you can be a more beneficial in altering your old thinking patterns forever. 

Belief, recognition, understanding, and consistency, as well as follow through, are the most important elements of changing the mindIf you don't believe it is possible it will not occur. If you don't recognize how the thoughts which are blocking you then nothing will help. If you don't understand then confusion resigns. If not consistent then don't start. If you do not follow through will game over. 

The greatest understanding that can be gained is the mind is a powerful influencer of content and flavor of human thoughts.

Tip #1: 

The first step is to recognize the thoughts which you harbor in your subconscious mind that are negative, unfulfilling, and not serving you. Write down these thoughts on a piece of paper. Title your list negative thoughts. 

Examples of some negative thoughts which you might be always repeating to yourself in your head that might show up on your list: 

I am unhappy with my life 

I am not good enough 

I am undeserving of love 

I am unworthy of a productive life 

I am always doing things wrong 

Study your list once completed. Ponder your list and determine whether you want to continue to think these thoughts or not.

Tip # 2

Next, create a new list of self-statements you would like to take the place of your old thoughts on your above list. Make sure your new list of self-statements are positive and productive. These new self-messages would show up in your consciousness conscious stream of thoughts. Keep your list simple. Write down, no more than ten (10) self-statements you think should be worked on first. 

Note, every self-statement should start with “you deserve.” Every new self-message which turns into a thought needs to permit you to accept it. If you start your statement with “I am” the wish after it tells your brain that you already have it, your mind sees no need work toward completion. But if you start a new self-statement with “you deserve the understanding is that you do not have it yet and your mind will focus on making it happen and become your truth.

Examples are:

You deserve to be happy

You deserve to be good enough

You deserve to be deserving of loving relationships

You deserve to be worthy of a productive life

You deserve to make good and appropriate decision for yourself and your life

Tip #3 

Then, set up a daily schedule on your calendar to repeat your new list daily. To keep you personally accountable, commit to verbalizing your list every day. Have a time set every morning, afternoon, after dinner or before bedtime for thirty (30) days. During each regularly scheduled time, read your list four (4) times in a row. Your mind is most influenced just before you close your eyes to go asleep and first thing when you wake up. Why is that? Think about it. Most people think of negative things right before they go to sleep. 

Examples are things like what went wrong today, what I will face tomorrow, what I didn’t like today and how do I fix the mistakes I made today. Then their subconscious mind mills over those issues all the while they are asleep when they awaken before they get out of bed, they are afraid things they do during the day will go wrong and bad things happen.

On the other hand, if you feed your subconscious mind positive thoughts then your subconscious mind will percolate on those positive thoughts on your list the whole time you asleep and in the morning when you wake up your subconscious mind will look to manifest that positive list and associate with positiveness in your life. 

Another time the mind is most influenced is when you wake up. Start your mind off first thing with positive and productive self-statements which will inspire what the mind will focus on all day long. 

Tip #4

Discipline through repetition is the fourth tip. Practice, practice and practice your list, some more. The more you practice your list the quicker your self-statements will embed themselves in the subconscious mind and become your truth.

Being told something over and over again by someone your emotionally attached to or when you're repeating some thought constantly over time in your mind is how the old negative statements enter into your subconscious mind initially. Therefore through continuous practice, new self-statements will replace the older ones and be installed into your subconscious mind. 

Let’s look at an athlete who wants to win gold and become an Olympic level athlete. The way to reach his goal is by practicing his or her skills over and over again until they can perform the skills without thinking. The same is true about changing thoughts. 

The more you repeat, repeat and repeat some more, your new self-statements, now termed Positive Life Statements, the quicker your new thoughts will stream into you conscious without you having to put in any conscious effort.

Tip #5

The last and most important understanding to gain is the connection is the part emotions play in this whole process. Emotional connectedness determines importance. Being emotionally attached to old negative thoughts or excited emotionally by the negative thoughts is how the diluted thoughts embedded themselves in the first place and show up over and over in your thought stream. 

Why is emotional connectedness so important? Reflect on this idea. A stranger can say whatever about you to you and your subconscious mind rejects it because there is no emotional attachment to that person. But the smallest criticism from someone you are emotionally attached to (healthy or unhealthy) or you love can produce major hurt that cuts to your core. Someone important to you is much more important to you than someone you are emotionally unattached to. 

The Secret

To be successful at changing your unhealthy thought patterns just follow the five tips.  Make your list (no more than ten (10) positive life affirmations at a time) repeat them at scheduled times. While you say your self-statements attach an emotion to each as you repeat them. The stronger the connected emotion, the faster your self-statements will be accepted, and they will stay with you longer. 

Positive Life Statements are essential to changing unhealthy thought patterns. 

So the secret is recognition, creation, consistency, emotional commitment and finally practice. 

          Coach Bill

Monday, July 31, 2017

Powers of Thought: Mind Code

Ever wondered how your mind works? 

Each one of us has questions about how our thoughts form. What generates them? Why our thoughts just happen and seem to have a mind of their own?

To know how you think the way you do would decrease the influence your thoughts have on you and increase your personal power. 

To know how your thoughts are manifested into actions, behaviors, and emotions would give you greater confidence? Learning how you can change the way you think, like from negative and self-defeating to positive and productive thoughts, would give you more hope and strength.

Start empowering yourself today. Shift your life by changing the way you think.

Click on the link below and listen to a free mini-lecture on mind code. The mind code lecture will explain and give you great insight into how your thoughts form and how your mind process works.

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          Coach Bill

Thursday, July 13, 2017

Power of Thoughts: Tips on Making Dissociation Productive & Positive

Dissociation is the most creative survival power the human mind possesses. It can help a person get through horrible situations, emotional hurt, physical pain, and life-threatening experiences.

Dissociation, when enforced if needed, allows a person to escape the reality he or she is in, not be aware of the hurt, pain or threat which is happening at the moment, and numb / ignore the overwhelming physical and emotional discomfort. Yet it is so misunderstood. 

Helping professionals have designated this PTSD symptom as negative, a part of a disease and a character weakness. Nothing is further from the truth.

Why does everything associated with survival viewed as negative? Once out of abuse, trauma or combat situations or environments and the survival aspect is no longer needed, can't  post-traumatic symptoms be looked at as productive and positive? 

Dissociation is Normal and Natural

Dissociation is a normal reaction and natural beneficial reaction to surviving and after-effect of experiencing abuse, trauma or combat situation(s). Dissociation is a protective adaptive skill that allows anyone to avoid hurt or pain mentally, emotionally, physically or living in an untenable environment as well as a situation.

By definition, dissociation is a mental process of disconnecting from one's thoughts, feelings, memories, and/or sense of identity when the whole is threatened with harm, hurt and pain on a mental, emotional, physical or spiritual level. 

Therefore, dissociation is the ability to an instinctively, and creatively focus to mentally / emotionally block out the present in order to escape and survive what is happening in reality. Probably, since abusive, traumatic, and combat experiences are viewed as negative, horrible and overwhelming the resulting symptoms are seen as negative, and terrible. 

Dissociation is very misunderstood by many professionals causing the general public to fear it, and survivors to be confused by it.

Tips on Making Dissociation Productive and Positive

Tip #1 Dissociation does not have to be negative. 

Dissociation is an adaptive survival skill. Actually, saves victim's lives.It has long been conveyed as bad, negative, or maladaptive when not in trauma. But the truth is dissociation can be a positive, productive and a very strong adaptative skill. Actually, dissociation is the ability to divert focus tack specific, inward, adapt, and adjust quickly in order to survive an overwhelming and possible life threating situation.

Tip #2 Dissociation can be a Productivity Tool

Dissociation, if no longer feared, embarrassed, cultivated, and practiced, can be used as a productive focus tool. When combined with other elements like intuitive breathing method and mindfulness dissociation increases in power. All three combined increases significantly productiveness.  can result in increased task completion, for better performance in class work and school, for sports performance improvement, and job projects and general health improvement in the ability to function daily.

Tip #3 Make Dissociation Positive 

To make dissociation positive you have to change your mindset. Change the way you view dissociation. You have to change your mindset from viewing dissociation as a pathology symptom to seeing dissociation as productive and as an advantage.
Once you make the change then practice your mindset change a lot.

Tip #4 Positive and Productivity Tips

Here are some symptoms of dissociation combined with how you can change each to be positive and productive.

 Feeling of being disconnected from yourself

    (Make your experience productive and positive by reconnecting with yourself and increasing
     your relationship with yourself)

 Problems with handling intense emotions

    (Make your experience productive and positive by embracing your emotions, instead of ignoring them or disconnecting from them. It is better to learn how to experience your emotions rather than running from or numbing them. Emotions are only painful if you believe they are.)

 Sudden and unexpected shifts in mood – for example, feeling very sad for no reason

    (Make your experience productive and positive by learning your triggers. Recognizing
     your triggers reduce your inappropriate response to them and how to neutralize their
     power and influence over you.)

 Depression or anxiety problems, or both

    (Make your experience productive and positive by breathing exercises, meditation, mindfulness, being in the moment and learning intuitive breathing to reduce depression and anxiety.)

 Feeling as though the world is distorted or not real

     (Make your experience productive and positive by checking out your environment by asking yourself these questions. What is my sense of what is happening? Then determine if your sense is real or unreal? Is it true or false? Is it productive or unproductive? Your answers will help you focus and achieve clarity in your thoughts.)

 Memory problems such as flashbacks, forgetting important personal information and significant memory lapses

     (Make your experience productive by journaling thoughts and feelings and taking notes on your memories as they come to you. Take your information and check them against your history as you know it to be)

Other cognitive (thought-related) problems such as concentration problems, like forgetting important personal information or wandering thoughts

   (Make your experience positive and productive by remaining mindful and connected to the moment. Find a point in the present that will assist you focusing your attention on what you are doing, therefore, enhancing the ability to stay present.)

Feeling compelled to behave in a certain way

   (Make your experience positive and productive by reducing impulsiveness, sense of acting and being mindful. Ask if what I am doing will help?)

Identity confusion – for example, behaving in a way that anyone else would normally find offensive or abhorrent.

   (Make productive by checking your beliefs and change the one which is harmful. Rescript your identity into the identity you want. Your traumatic experience changed your identity, so it is your power and right to change it.)

⦁ Feel as though negative attitude is the default

   (Make your experience positive and productive by deciding an appropriate mindset toward dissociation.)

Subtypes of Dissociation

More Information: Two Subtypes of Dissociation

There are subtypes of dissociation many mistaken as dissociation. Both of these subtypes of dissociation are byproducts of experiencing intense anxiety as a result of experiencing abuse, trauma, or combat events. These both cause self-judging of yourself and your environment. Intense anxiety, doubt, and second-guessing result from living through life-threatening experiences. 

A good thing to know is if you are in a state of self-judgment, you are not in a state of self. Therefore losing connection with yourself and your surroundings. Both subtypes can develop as a result lesser degree of experiences and without the development of Post-traumatic Stress Disorder.TS

1. Depersonalization

Recent research evaluating the relationship between Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and dissociation has suggested that there is a dissociative subtype of PTSD, defined primarily by symptoms of derealization (i.e., feeling as if the world is not real) and depersonalization (i.e., feeling as if you not real).

An ‘out-of-body’ or depersonalization experience during which individuals often see themselves observing their own body from above has the capacity to create the perception that ‘this is not happening to me’ and is typically accompanied by an attenuation of the emotional experience.

2. Derealization

Similarly, states of derealization during which individuals experience that ‘things are not real; it is just a dream’ create the perception that ‘this is not really happening to me’ and are often associated with the experience of decreased emotional intensity or emotional numbness.

Questions to Enhance Enlightenment about Making Dissociation Positive and Productive 

The following 10 questions can help you further overcome dissociation. Recognizing your mind and body reactions can reduce the power, and of the dissociation. You can become more mindful, more intuitive, more positive, and make better decisions to be more productive. Your answers can help you to be more compassionate and create a positiveness toward yourself.

1. Ask yourself "What is your mind telling you?"

2. What is your body telling you?

3. What is your feeling telling you?

4. What is your intuition telling you?

5. What are you running from?

6. What are your top 5 fears about myself?

(Break down the top 5 to top 3 and then which is the most important fear? Then evaluate by answering – Is my biggest fear true or false? Is it real or delusional? What can I do right now to change it?)

7. What are your top 5 fears about life?

(Break down the top 5 to top 3. Then which is the biggest fear? Then evaluate by answering – Is my biggest fear - true or false? Is it - real or delusional? What can I do right now to change it?)

8. What are your top 5 core beliefs about myself?

(Break down the top 5 to top 3. Then which is the most important core belief? Then evaluate by answering – Is my biggest core belief - true or false? Is it - real or delusional? What can I do right now to change it?)

9. What are your top 5 core beliefs about life?

(Break down the top 5 to top 3. Then which is the most important core belief? Then evaluate by answering – Is my biggest core belief - true or false? Is it - real or delusional? What can I do right now to change it?)

10. How can I take what is going on inside of me or in my environment and make it productive?


Making dissociation positive and productive can be achieved after you are no longer are in an abusive, traumatic, or combative situations or surroundings as well as willing and ready to shift your point of view and change your mindset.

           Coach Bill

Saturday, May 6, 2017

Powers of Thought: Tips to Challenge Negative Thinking & Lies

Everyone is troubled with negative thoughts or cognitive lies about themselves or situations or abilities at some point in their lives.

When the brain goes negative it can eat away positive, productive, creative, and general fulfillment in yourself and your life. 

Negative thoughts are harmless unless you believe in them. In fact believing in negative thoughts grants the negative content more influence and power over how you act, feel, react and think. 

Whether aware of it or not the average person thinks anywhere from 11,000 to 70,000 thoughts or more per day. Amazingly, 85 percent of people's thoughts are negative. Repetitious negative thinking trains the brain to focus more on the negative rather than positive thoughts. It is human nature to focus on the negative thoughts in order to fix them or make things right and take positive thoughts for granted. In order to be more positive and productive negative thinking, ruminations and cognitive lies have to be turned around by taking away their power and you accomplish this task through confronting or challenging them. 

The key elements to turning around negative thoughts, ruminations, and cognitive lies into positive and productive thoughts are to 1) identifying and recognizing the negative core beliefs which are generating your thoughts, 2) challenge those negative beliefs by denouncing them, and 3) lastly replacing those negative beliefs (aka mind code errors) with positive beliefs which are more accurate and true beliefs. Shifting negative beliefs into positive ones end in a more positive inner voice also. 

If negative thought, ruminating, and cognitive lies go unchecked then the result could be a thought addiction, stronger negative thoughts and influential cognitive lies that turn into fact and truth while causing false emotions, and inappropriate behaviors or acting out.

Distorted thoughts do not start at the thought level. If cognition is attempted to be corrected at the thought level then the mark has been missed. Thoughts are a byproduct of what is called negative core beliefs which are generated from one's mind code. Mind code is the accumulation of data accepted from life experiences and situations that turn into self-messages (aka core beliefs). If core beliefs are negative then one’s inner voice is negative.

Personal Philosophy Restructuring is coaching method based on the understanding that your mind code influences the creation of core beliefs or self-messages which feed content to your inner voice. Your inner voice then produces and governs the formation of thoughts which determines and manifests in emotions and behaviors. 

To look at it a different way. Data gathered from life experiences and situations are accepted and stored in the subconscious mind (mind code, core beliefs, core values and core expectations). Subconscious data becomes conscious once the data passes into conscious awareness at the inner voice phase and thoughts are actually formed and generated through the inner voice statements. At this point, no one or the outside world can see or know what is occurring in your head. Thoughts influence and govern the production of behaviors, emotions, and reactions which everyone can see. 
So, when you change your core beliefs to positive and productive which will drastically interrupt the sequence just described resulting in altering your thoughts and subsequently you act and react differently as well as feel differently.

Therefore if the data you absorb (aka mind code) from your life experiences are critical, hurtful, judging, lies, negative, or painful, your core beliefs will be self-critical, hurtful, self-judging, lies, negative, and full of pain and the end result will be that your behaviors tend to be inappropriate and not helpful in situations. Also, your emotions will be false based on distorted data.

What can be done?

Negative thoughts and self-lies are the results of formed negative beliefs. When you don’t have all of the knowledge of what is happening to you or why our thoughts are so distorted, skewed and negative, you have a tendency to believe them and they become your self-truths. Then your life becomes a burden and completely unfulfilling. 

Empowering yourself with the first step of identifying and recognizing is essential. Here are tips to help you to empower yourself by challenging your core beliefs. To be empowered you have to face your negative thought and cognitive lies directly.

How to Challenge  Your Negative Thoughts and Cognitive Lies

Answering these questions will empower you in discovering the truth of your core beliefs which are generating negative thoughts & cognitive lies.

How do I know if my thoughts are based on accurate and truthful core beliefs?

What evidence or fact do I have to support this belief?

How can I do to test my belief to find out if it’s accurate?

Do I have a trusted friend, loved one or family member who knows me well enough that I can check out my beliefs with?

Is this belief helpful, positive or productive to my life?

Are there other ways that I can believe about life myself or situations?

Am I too critical, judging, negative or punitive toward myself?

From my history, who else or what situations contributed to me believing this way about myself?
Are my actions, feelings and thinking really in my control?

Am I over thinking my beliefs about myself or over expecting to the point of being disappointed in my performance?

What would I say to another I was emotionally attached to expressing the same beliefs about themselves in this situation?

Do I always view the best in others and the worst in myself?

Am I doubting who I believe I am or holding myself to unreasonable standards?

Are my beliefs (self-messages) I have about me - 1. true or false, 2. real or illusion, 3. productive or unproductive, or 4. healthy or unhealthy?

You can challenge your negative core belief and self-lies with the questions above by making a list of all the beliefs you have toward yourself. This can be hard, because some beliefs have become so distorted, so ingrained, and so deeply embedded in your subconscious mind that they have become your self-truths, therefore, you do not recognize them as a lie or you challenge their validity. 

Take Away

When working on discovering your negative core beliefs and listing them try to have a positive mindset, be mindful, open and consider all possibilities. Simply doing this exercise can help you to understand why you act, feel think and react toward yourself and in situations the way you do. 

Your listing of your beliefs can show you that your beliefs are not true, were made up judgments from others based on their illusions about you, not productive and are extremely mentally, emotionally and physically unhealthy. So you don’t have to own them anymore. Detach and discard the beliefs that don’t serve you and replace them with healthy beliefs which will empower you and enhance your life.

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                                     Coach Bill

Sunday, April 30, 2017

Powers of Thought: Tips on Protecting Personal Energy

Living mindfully is about being connected with and living in the moment. Everything that you believe, view, touch, hear, feel, and think is made up of energy. Negative energy, as well as positive energy, can be accumulated and held onto causing dysfunction, self-destructive emotions, inappropriate behavior and a general negative overview of self. 

It is well known that it takes more energy to disavow yourself of something than allowing yourself something. The loss of personal energy creates a hole. Human beings do not tolerate empty holes. So seeking a replacement becomes (good or bad, positive or negative, healthy or addictive) the main objective. 

Knowledge comes from experiencing your energy in the moment and not getting lost in the past or projecting into the future. When you get lost in the past or focusing on predicting the future all your energy depletes due to the amount of energy it takes to be in more than one place at a time. Meaning on one hand attempting to live in the moment and focused on fixing what went wrong in the past make your energy vulnerable. On the other hand attempting to live your life in the present and focused on predicting what might or might not happen in the future also causes your energy to evaporate.

Many times in your life you modulate in and out of periods of energy loss. Why? You do not allow or permitted to protect and enhance your own energy for one or more reasons. Why? Because you were never allowed or given permission to think of yourself first.

To protect your own energy, here are some tips for you. 

19 permissions you should adopt to be healthy and have a good supply of personal energy.
To protect my energy, you are allowed by treating yourself first 

To protect my energy, you are allowed to protect yourself

To protect my energy, you are allowed to change beliefs

To protect my energy, you are allowed to believe in yourself 

To protect my energy, you are allowed to be committed to yourself first

To protect my energy, you are allowed to spend a day with yourself

To protect my energy, you are allowed to not to fulfill others expectations

To protect my energy, you are allowed to not share yourself

To protect my energy, you are allowed to not seek others validation

To protect my energy, you are allowed to do nothing

To protect my energy, you are allowed to spend time alone

To protect my energy, you are allowed to sleep in 

To protect my energy, you are allowed to find your voice and express opinions

To protect my energy, you are allowed to move forward

To protect my energy, you are allowed to stop holding onto people, place, and things that don't serve you

To protect my energy, you are allowed to embrace yourself

To protect my energy, you are allowed to change

To protect my energy, you are allowed to be mindful

Take Away

If you are not mindful of what you are allowed or personally have permission to do with yourself or in life you could lose more than just your energy. The most important aspect of yourself is what you believe about yourself. Not whether someone else is better than you or how you compare to them. Diverting your energy from yourself to obsessing what others expect, think or want from you sucks up your energy you need to live mindfully.

Turn it all around. Know what you are permitted to do or not to do. Take the ones you are not allowed to do for yourself and change by giving yourself permission. 

Live a fulfilled and healthy by enjoying life at the moment. The moment is all you have and that is real.

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                            Coach Bill

Wednesday, April 19, 2017

Powers of Thought: 4 Tips on Turning Thoughts Positive

Negative core beliefs create anxiety, critical self-talk, unrealistic thoughts, stress, and worry. All of these mentioned are a negative thinking pattern that can be contributing to your anxiety, critical self-talk, stress, worry and panic issues. Negative thinking tends to be a learned habit that can impact your emotions, thinking, and physical health. Since negative thinking typically develops over time due emotional, environmental and situational triggers it can be unlearned and replaced with more positive beliefs and views when the unknown influence of core beliefs are recognized.

Turn Your Thoughts Around

Turning your negative beliefs around involves recognizing, assessing their truth, and replaced. 

First, start by recognizing how often you pay attention to and worrying about your thoughts throughout the day. It may help to start a thought journal and record your thoughts on a piece of paper as they come up. Knowing your thoughts will open you up to realizing your belief’s power and influence they have over how you act, feel, react and think.

Secondly, look at your beliefs behind your thoughts and ask if they are realistic and truthful beliefs of who you are. Try to look at the other side of the beliefs which result in negative thoughts. For example, if you believe that others won’t accept you due to your lack of skills, ask yourself if that is a necessarily true reflection of you really are? Do people only accept those who are completely flawless? Do you really want to be friends with someone who can’t accept you for who you are? By reality checking and disputing your beliefs you diminish their power and influence. Checking validity of your beliefs and doubting their truthfulness may begin help you to take on a different and more positive perspective.

Thirdly, determine where or who these negative beliefs came from. Is what you believe about yourself is coming from your true self or was it given to you through another’s critical statement or perception? For example, are you not good enough? If your beliefs did not come from you or are not a real vision of who you then denounce them out loud to yourself. Once their falsehood is realized and denounced, take them out of your mind, eliminate them from your belief system.

Lastly, replace these negative beliefs, expectations, perceptions, thoughts, and worries with more realistic beliefs, thoughts, and positive statements about yourself. 

For instance, you may begin to think of yourself in a better or more positive light. Not everyone will accept your beliefs but your opinion is most valuable. Know that you are working on becoming a more compassionate, fulfilled, positive, and self-assured person. When you have made the shift in your beliefs that will eventually become your truths and you will realize more acceptance in yourself. In this way, you know you are based in your new core beliefs.

Take Away

Accept that your thoughts are a byproduct of your beliefs and generated from your subconscious mind. Change the content of your beliefs from negative to positive. Once your beliefs are changed and reflect a true representation of who you really are then your thoughts will automatically change to benefit you. You possess the ability to change your beliefs and have a more fulfilled life.

Turn your thoughts are by understanding how your beliefs influence your world. Learn more at my website and click here to download eBook on core beliefs

          Coach Bill

Thursday, January 26, 2017

Powers of Thought: Thought Addiction Assessment

Do you feel like you know your mind well? Are you in control of your mind? Do you think your mind works for you? If you answered is no to all 3 questions then you may be working for your mind and doing, thinking and feeling things you don’t want to. You just might be living by thoughts generated by your subconscious mind. If you keep giving your power over to your subconscious mind then your subconscious mind might lead you to another addiction.

Have you had an addiction of some sort and find it hard to stay on your sobriety path or resist relapse thoughts?

Thought Addiction

Thought addiction (TA) is a hidden addiction that affects millions of Americans every day. TA affects their mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health.

Many addiction professionals work on the visible addictions, not the invisible one. Thought Addiction can cause sleepless nights, addictions, anger, anxiety, fear, frustration, stress, digestive problems, health issues, troubling relationships, doubt, tight muscles, headaches and yes even death (suicidal thoughts)? 

Most people enter into an addictive pattern to numb out pain (emotional, mental, physical or spiritual), ignore or reduce perceived health issues, (like anxiety, panic or stress), to enhance a perceived personality weaknesses, quiet a constant looping negative thoughts or generally feeling out of control. Example: “If I do ______ (blank) then I will gain control.” Initially, there is an experience of relief from painful feelings, inappropriate behaviors, distorted thoughts or emotional hurts. But repetitive engagement soon becomes addictive and then toxic.

Definition of Thought Addiction

The definition of thought addiction is the development and attaching to an intrusive repetitive habitual thinking pattern to one thought or set of thoughts to change yourself to be accepted, improve your performance of a skill to be good enough or both.

Thought addiction is the act of consciously allowing, feeding, entertaining or repetitively returning to a negative, critical, harmful or destructive thought over and over again. These type of thoughts or sets of thoughts that do not serve you decreases your confidence, wipes out your self-esteem or worth and has long range damaging results to your health and life. What accentuates this type of thought(s) or set of thoughts to form is when the thought(s) come out of a hurtful situation where emotionally charged statements comes from someone or groups you want to be emotionally attachment too as well as negative thoughts of generated by yourself about not being good enough or being accepted surface. Examples would be “I can’t be social or feel comfortable without drinking”, “I will not be acceptable by this group unless I act a certain way”, or “I can’t function through the day without using drugs”.

A thought addiction depletes every system of the human body. Repetitive and unhealthy thoughts can deplete a person’s emotional, mental, physical and spiritual energy, leaving the person with a feeling of no control, emptiness inability, not good enough or weakness.

Thought addiction follows the same rules and progression of all other addictions. Think about this statement “every addiction starts with a thought” no matter what kind of addiction.

A thought addiction or unhealthy thought looping can cause you to seek and expand into other addictions. Addictions such as substance, food, exercise, emotions or behaviors.

Consider this idea. Every addiction starts with a thought. For example: “I am not good enough, so I need something to help me” “This substance (thought, emotion, or behavior) will make me perform better, be more social, fit in, mentally escape, feel better or make me not feel at all”.

Once a person becomes sober, the original thought, which caused him or her to use, surfaces again because it was not dealt with or shifted so a relapse is possible. TA can also be the aftereffect of surviving any abusive, overwhelming or traumatic life event.

Forms of thoughts you can become addicted to:

· Anxious Thoughts
· Compulsive Thoughts
· Depressive Thoughts
· Diluted Thoughts
· Fearful Thoughts
· Obsessive Thoughts
· Negative Thoughts
· Ruminating Thoughts
· Self-defacing Thoughts
· Self-defeating Thoughts
· Self-limiting Thoughts
· Self-sabotaging Thoughts
· Sexual Thoughts
· Substance Thoughts
· Suicidal Thoughts
· Unwanted Thoughts
· Worrisome Thoughts

It is important to understand the influence and power a thought can have over you. A thought can affect your mental and physical health, as well as these types of thoughts, can become so overwhelming. As you know thoughts can be disruptive, destructive, and negative. These types of thoughts can go astray becoming very negative, overwhelming and even toxic. When caught in a thought addiction it can seem as though your thoughts have a mind of their own and you feel as though you have absolutely no control over them.

Thought Addiction Assessment

Here is an assessment to help you to recognize if you are headed into or have a thought addiction. Stop and take this assessment to find out if you have an unhealthy relationship with a thought or set of thoughts. This assessment will assist in identifying and learning if you are in danger. 
Take out a piece of paper. On the left side of the sheet, write down the numbers 1 through 20. As you read each question, put “Yes” or “No” next to the corresponding question number.

1. Do you periodically or constantly think about a thought or set of thoughts that alter your mood negatively?

2. Do you have difficulty concentrating due to negative, painful or seemly inappropriate thought(s)?

3. Do you have an inability to participate or function in your daily tasks because of a failure to stop a thought(s)?

4. Does a thought or set of thoughts keep you from feeling?

5. Is your thought content over 75% negative or do not serve you toward your ability to perform?

6. Does a thought or set of thoughts feel like they block you from succeeding?

7. Does a thought or set of thoughts keep you from investing in relationships?

8. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to self-sabotage your efforts to be happy, satisfied or fulfilled?

9. Do you have a thought or set of thoughts that cause you to behave in ways you do not want to (acting out, emotionally reactive, self-harm or addictive behaviors)?

10. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to reject yourself or not like yourself?

11. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause sleepless nights or wake you at night?

12. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to overuse drugs (legal or illegal)?

13. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to under eat or restrict or overeat or binge on food?

14. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to over or under compensate perform in life situations?

15. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to hate or reject all or a single part of your body?

16. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to deprive yourself of something?

17. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to say “No” to social invitations or interact with family?

18. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to perform poorly at your job, school, social interactions or relationships?

19. Do you call off from work because you are thinking you are too “depressed” to work or just not good enough?

20. Does a thought or set of thoughts cause you to be consumed mentally during the day?

Scoring the Assessment

Once you have completed all 20 questions on the assessment, add up all the “Yes” answers.

If you have four or less “Yes” answers, you are experiencing normal thinking. Your thoughts do not interfere too much with your life.

If you have answered five to eight of the questions “Yes” then the assessment indicates a low level or episodic of habitual thought looping. You could experience troublesome periodic thought looping. To gain a deeper understanding, you may want to review each question you answered yes, one question at a time to increase your understanding and what you might want to do to change your thinking.

If you answer from nine to fourteen questions with “Yes”, then you are probably experiencing moderate thought looping and maybe affecting you on a regular basis. Maybe you should address all the issues in each question that you answered yes and look at your core beliefs behind them. If you find negative core beliefs and change them eventually will change the way you think.

If you answered fifteen or more questions with “Yes”, then you are in the high range or addictive range. You are probably going through feeling as though you have loss of control of your thoughts, experiencing distorted thoughts, obsessive, ruminating thoughts and your ability to function effectively is probably decreased. Your thinking is probably compromised. You should seek help and support to reduce their effects on your life. There is a good possibility that you could become more addicted if you do not take action. You might begin to substitute or act out your thought addiction by seeking secondary addictions with substances, drugs (legal or illegal), emotions, food, exercise, as inappropriate relationships as well as destructive or self-harming behaviors in order to subdue the constant looping.

Take Away 

This assessment can be your first step in understanding barriers in your mind that keep you from being positive and productive. Thought addiction assessment can help you identify problem area of thinking you need to address so you can work to regain control over your thoughts. 

Mind coaching is a way to change the way you think by discovering the roots of your thinking and how to successfully move toward positiveness.

         Coach Bill

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Thursday, January 12, 2017

Powers of Thoughts: 6 Tips on Breaking Mind Barriers

Everyone strives to create more power in themselves and their lives. Yet there seem to be things that stop them from accomplishing what is wanted due to unidentified barriers. 

Here are barriers and tips on how to effect positive change.

1. Stop letting the expectations of others govern your life

It’s not what others expect of you, it’s what you expect of yourself that determines your path.

It’s your expectations that are what’s best for you and your life.

2. Stop focusing on what went wrong in the past

It’s not your past which determines your future course.

It’s the substance of your actions in the moment that determines your future.

3. Stop wavering on decisions about what you want

You will be stuck where you are until you decide where you want to go. 

Make a concrete positive action plan for what you want and create small steps to follow to get there. Take one step at a time until you complete all the steps in your action plan.

Take accountability for completing your action plan.

4. Stop trying to be and do everything perfectly 

Set a new mindset to allow yourself to do your best in everything you do. 

Acquire new skills to help you do your best. Practice the new skills until you are more confident and reach a level of mastery. 

Be comfortable in moving forward even though you may have doubts.

5. Stop avoiding issues due to negative beliefs 

Stop ignoring issues because you believe you can’t make them right.

Your core beliefs actually determine how you act, think and feel. 

Create new beliefs and passionately work to make them come true.

6. Stop looking at the negative things about yourself or negative situations in your life

If you focus on the past you remain in the past. 

Look at what you have not what you don’t have.

Identify what makes you fulfilled and satisfied in the moment and multiply them.

Appreciate the moment because that is all you have.

Take Away 

The power of positiveness is achieved by looking at what you have in the moment, not what you do not have or what someone else has more of. Positive thinking, success, and fulfillment arise from creating positive beliefs about yourself and putting positive actions into your life. 

Focus on yourself. Identifying and practice the good aspects of your abilities, character, and qualities which will produce an increase in your confidence and power. Follow through even though at first, you don’t think you deserve or have them. Live in the moment and be mindful.

The more you practice being who you want to be, the more you will be.
         Coach Bill
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Wednesday, January 4, 2017

Powers of Thought: 6 Tips on Becoming Confident

You do not have to be accepted by everyone. It is impossible to have everyone like you especially when you have difficulty liking or believing in yourself. Confidence is an acquired skill that you master, not something you are born with or not.

Here are 6 Tips to Help You Become More Confident in Yourself

1. Start with Believing in Yourself

Confidence is not acquired through the outside. You can’t have a sense confidence if you don’t believe in yourself. Believing in yourself is the biggest first step to achieving confidence. If you don’t believe in yourself fully then you will not support yourself in the work needed to be done to increase your confidence.

2. Stop Comparing Yourself to Other People

Easier said than it is to do it. Appreciate who yourself and not by someone else opinion, thank goodness. You cannot be someone else so why don’t you just focus on working to be the best version of yourself. 

Reset your mindset. You only have to be good enough for you.  Acquire a positive attitude by having positive beliefs and positive thinking about yourself. 

3. Stop Feeding Negative Thoughts

To gain the confidence you have to have positive core beliefs about you. Positive beliefs are majorly important. Understand that it is your beliefs are what determines the content of your inner self-talk and thinking. Know that the more effort you put into eliminating yourself of negative thinking the more intense negative thinking becomes. Meaning the more you expect or think something bad about yourself the more chance it will be your truth. So if you think you are “not good enough”, “you don’t deserve anything” “you are not pretty” or “no one likes you” the greater the chance that it is how you will manifest yourself to the world through your emotions and behaviors.

Change that by changing negative beliefs, negative words you use. Your mindset, inner talk, and thinking are governed directly by your core beliefs.

4. Accept Mistakes

In life, you will make mistakes. Mistakes happen naturally all the time. Without making mistakes you would not learn anything. To strive for or desire to be perfect is an impossibility. So stop trying. 

Accept a new mindset that things will go wrong from time to time. It is the lesson you learn from those situations that build a stronger sense of self and will result in a higher degree of confidence. The more you practice and practice believing in yourself the more fulfilled you become.

5. Don’t Allow Anyone or Anything to Define You

You are unique. There is not another one like you. You are the master of your identity and actions by how you believe in yourself. No one else. What others believe in you are just an opinion and nothing more and not always the truth in who you are as a person. Strive to be always comfortable with yourself, because if you are not, no one else will be.

Don’t disconnect from yourself in order to belong to a group or fit a mold others expect in order to be accepted. Create the person and identity you want to be. Or better, don’t over think your identity just be the natural you. 

6. Practice, Practice and Practice Some More

Confidence in anything areas of life is a skill. No one is just born with confidence. Confidence has to be work at. Experience tells you that the more you practice a behavior, ability, skill or talent the more proficient you become and the more self-assured you are at performing that behavior, ability, skill or talent. Confidence is not universal, is specific. Meaning no one is confident in everything they do. 

So pick the areas you need to improve your performance in. Once you achieve a level of mastery the happier, fulfilled and more satisfied you become in yourself. That is what confidence is. 


If you want anything in life like confidence to have to work at it whether it in self, sports or career. Identify what you are lacking, acquire the skill and then practice it.
         Coach Bill
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Wednesday, November 9, 2016

Election Blues: 4 Tips on Getting Over It

The election can cause a lot of anxiety, stress and worry about the future. Over expecting can put a hardship on your emotions as well as physical well-being. 

In fact, you can develop "election blues" which can make you believe that you don’t count and turn your mood into anger, frustration or disgust.

The experience overall can feel traumatic in many ways.

4 tips on how to mitigate the negative effects of the election.

1. Disconnect from Media

Disconnect from the onslaught of media and all the opinions. Yes, we all have to be informed but being over informed can put a strain on us. Too much information and particularly emotionally charged information can cause stress and worry. Out of balance of our emotional system can cause anxiety, anger, disappointment, frustration and discontent. 

2. Get Up Off the Chair and Do Something

Just don’t sit around watching TV or computer thinking you will gain new insight or thing will change any minute. Do something, take action is the enemy of anxiety. So overcoming anxiety, stress, and worry is best done by channeling your energy and focus on being productive.

3. Take Time and Take Care of Yourself

When people get anxious, stressed and worried they tend to constrict their muscles in their body for protection and their breathing becomes shallow reducing the oxygen to their brains. Practice meditation, intuitive breathing methods to calm and reduce anxiety in your mind and body. Exercise is a wonderful way to reduce stress. Go out and take a walk.

4. Put Your Fears on Paper

Write down your fears on paper. By putting them down on paper you recognize superficially what they are and the process takes away their power. 99% of all fears never come true as you believe they would. Remember tomorrow will be different and all conditions may change making the fears invalid.

Take Away

Understand that life events will change every day. Even though things feel so bad today it will change in time. Take care of yourself. You as well as the country is very resilient and we will get through this. 

Have faith that things will change and what was disappointing today may not be tomorrow.

                              Coach Bill

Monday, October 31, 2016

Powers of Thought: 6 Tips on Producing Positive Beliefs

Sometimes it seems as though your thoughts have all the power. It feels as though your thoughts rule your behaviors, emotions, and reactions. Your thoughts seem to direct your life more than you do.

If only you had the power and ability to change your thoughts with just shifting the way you think.

So do your thoughts have that much power? Or are they influenced and governed by a deeper part of the mind? 

There has been a huge misconception going on for decades which says if you think positive thoughts you can overcome negative thinking and move into positiveness. For years people have been focusing on and practicing faithfully positive affirmations in order to change negative thought patterns and shift a positive state of mind from just by saying them. Well, affirmations have not worked at all. Universally people are getting really tired of it. People have become very tired of this philosophy that just positive thinking can project them into happiness, fulfillment, and success. 

To think that you can just think positive thoughts and your mind will alter those negative thought patterns and help you navigate through life's barriers is very misleading. Thoughts do not have that power unless you give it to them.

Realistically, significantly less than 10% of your ability to succeed, lose weight, overcome bad situations, make positive changes, stop negative thoughts, recover from addictions, form deeper relationships, achieve love, or find fulfillment, has to do with how you think. 

Power of Core Beliefs

Actually, more than 90% has to do directly with your core beliefs you formed as you grew up and are now stored in your subconscious mind. You are unaware of that fact. Believe it or not, you have been accumulating, accepting and storing beliefs into your subconscious mind over your lifetime. Really it is these stored core beliefs which directly influence and govern how you form your thoughts and how you think.

In order to make a substantial change to how you think you have to understand how your mind works. 

Over 90 percent of all your thoughts are formed and govern by your core beliefs. These beliefs, unknown to you, embedded themselves in your subconscious mind. 

A majority of your thoughts today are directed by your core beliefs from your past. The content of your thoughts and degree of happiness, fulfillment, and success equal to now you believe about yourself. 

Thought is the Direct Result of Your Mind Algorithms

Let’s look at how your get the thoughts generate.

Your beliefs actually are formed from what is termed mind code. Your mind code is what really determines who you are, how you behave, your emotions are expressed, how you sense and how you reacts. Very importantly mind code is where your identity originates. 

Mind code is data your brain gathers every day of your life from situations you go through. Think of mind code as a mind algorithm. An algorithm is a step by step instructions of how your mind will operate. The mind code data is then converted into your belief system or what is termed personal philosophy. 

A mind algorithm is very similar to a computer algorithm. In a computer, it is the algorithms that tell the computer and program how to function. If the computer algorithms get changed like through a virus then the computer reacts differently or doesn’t work at all. The same is true with mind algorithms. If the mind accepts negative data from experiences, it then produces negative beliefs and in turn, generates negative thoughts

An example of the above is if you experience a hurtful situation that causes you to form a negative core belief that you are let’s say “not good enough”, you will think you are not good enough and not know why you are negative toward yourself. 

Then your core beliefs feed content to your inner voice. It is the content of your inner voice that greatly influences and governs the formation, flavor, and direction of your thoughts.

So the powers your think your thoughts have doesn’t start at the thinking level. That is why positive affirmations do not work. The power is in your mind code and core beliefs which are completely unknown to your consciousness until they are triggered and surface into your inner voice. 

It is your mind code that ultimately decides how you will act, feel, interact and think about yourself, others and how you will react in life situations.

If you really want to change how your thoughts you need to change your core beliefs. Creating new core beliefs will change your old mind algorithms.

Below is six tips on how to shift your negative core beliefs to positive core beliefs.

6 Tips Accessing Your Powers of Thought by Changing 
Your Core Beliefs

Let's get started regaining your power.

1. Believing that you have the power to create positive habits. The truth is, it’s just as easy to create positive habits as it is to create negative ones. It’s just a matter of how you spend your time.  You can spend your time believing things you are not or create new beliefs that bring you closer to what you want to believe in. Or you can submit to old beliefs that do not serve you that have proven unsuccessful.  

Thinking negatively can become an addiction. People complain, “It’s too hard to keep my energy up thinking in what is good for me!” Really it’s not hard – it’s just that people get into the habit of thinking negatively. Over time it is easier to think negative than positive.

If this sounds like you, break the habit.  Realize that you are where you are because of the way you believed and thought in the past. Yet your future depends on how you believe and think today. You can choose to stay in negative thinking, or you create a totally new set of beliefs that will produce totally different thinking.  You can choose to watch another sitcom, or you can choose to read another chapter in a great book. 

Honestly, you can choose to act on opportunity, or you can choose to focus on barriers and triumph over them. There’s nothing hard or complicated about it, other than the way you’re thinking based on old negative core beliefs and thinking that no longer serve you or the direction in your life.

2. Ruminating on everything, over and over again. Lack of confidence and discipline, mixed with over expecting rapid success and negative beliefs, fuels a habit of negative thoughts. Many studies suggest that ruminating is a mental handicap: rather than risk failure. Studies state that preferring to respond to and indulge in beliefs formed long ago create barriers to success and make it next to impossible get rid of negative beliefs and thoughts. Continuing to focus repeatedly forms a vicious cycle of distortion. 

The best thing you can do for yourself is to break this cycle – stop saying “I can’t,” start saying “I can,” and then put the “can” into action. Stop fearing something will probably won’t happen in your life. 

Thinking isn’t enough; you must apply! Building a strong belief system is which will determine the content of your thinking. Just thinking about success will not change your life; you must DO! If you can’t change all beliefs at once change a few at a time. Changing a few beliefs will add up. A positive belief system built over time, in small increments, tends to create a change in your thinking that lasts for a long time. 

3. Comparing yourself to others, and then harboring bitterness or resentment. Negative thinking people believe someone else’s good fortune takes away from their own. They believe they are not good enough to deserve fulfillment or success. This leads to bitterness and resentment. Don’t let bitterness, hurt or jealousy get the best of you. Bitterness is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own – there’s nothing attractive or beneficial about believing this way. So stop comparing your journey with everyone else’s. 

Your life is your life. Living isn’t a competition. Just believe you are the best you can be. If you want to measure your improvement, compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Become more mindful.

4. Self-doubt fuels negativity and withdrawal. A mind is an awesome tool if used right, but it can be a negativity conduit that fills your thoughts with doubt if you allow it. Any uncomfortable thinking should be denounced and rejected. Don’t accept negative beliefs or thoughts. Don’t allow your mind get the best of you. 

Believe in yourself through tough times. Believe in your capacity to flourish. Believe making new connections are worth the effort. Believe strongly that you make mistakes on your way to greatness. Believe you can be thoughtless and intelligent, selfish and gracious, stressed and excited all at the same time. Believe there are many roads to what’s right. Most of all believe in your intuition, especially when you have to choose between two good paths. Believe the answers are within you and do not originate from outside you. Believe life will surprise you over and over again. Believe your experiences along the way are part of your journey. 

Those who don’t have resilient and positive beliefs think they will be full of self-doubt and won’t find their inner strength.

5. Don’t put yourself down. There are enough people out there to put you down due to their own negative beliefs. Begin with forming compassion toward yourself. Compassion simply is a keen emotional understanding of the situations you have experienced and how you have gotten you to where you have gotten to. 

Believe that you can overcome anything with the right action and your thinking will fall in line.

6. Recognize your beliefs. To affect change you have to recognize your core beliefs in order to correct them. Your core beliefs are the windows of your mind code. Meaning if you make the effort to recognize the bad beliefs you carry and change them then your life will change for the better. 

So write down a list of all your core beliefs and self-messages you have about yourself. Study the list and determine whether each one is true or false, real or delusional, yours or someone else’s. Finally, determine what kind of emotion each belief produces when you become aware of them. For every belief that is false, delusional, accepted from someone else and produces a negative emotion, then write a new positive belief to counteract it. Mindfully accept each new belief into your belief system and attach a strong positive emotion to each. Read your new list daily. Especially first thing in the morning and the just before you fall asleep when your mind is most pliable to accept new beliefs. Then watch your thoughts change.


You can't think yourself to greatness but with a solid positive core belief system, you can accomplish anything you want. 

Follow tip #6 above and create a new skill set. This new skill set will produce a change in your thinking and manifest into a positive change in your behaviors and emotions. The end positively completing tip #6 will result in a new you!
                        Coach Bill
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