Second, successful processing has to come from your second brain, which if you don't is your gut. Your gut is a place of "sensing" and is void of thinking and feeling. That is why processing can be so helpful.
Third, in order to process what you need to you have to "step back" from yourself (divorcing yourself from the drama of the memory, false emotions, and distorted thinking) nad witness what happened, what you experienced and all the drama connected.
If you can accomplish 1 through 3, you are ready for an intuitive approach.
Intuitive processing is the practice of digesting past pain from gut instinct or sensing actually guttural observing your thoughts, emotions and physical sensations from a witness position instead of involved in being a participant. The difference from "I feel right now I am hurting" (Caught up in or reexperiencing) from "My heart is hurt due to..." (Sensing the process). "I feel like a victim," "I sense I was a victim."; “I feel not good enough,” “I was labeled as not good enough.”
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