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Friday, June 20, 2014

Dr. Bill has Launched a New Podcast Channel

I have some good news for all my friends. I have started a Podcast. The title for my Podcast channel is

                                               “Quieting the Noise in Your Mind”.

Now it is possible to listen to current topics that interest you and that will enhance your life.

Quieting the Noise in Your Mind podcast channel is committed to discussing post issues related to abuse, combat and trauma experiences. Quieting the Noise in Your Mind is dedicated to survivors of painful life situations who are attempting to cope, overcome and heal from the symptoms of Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Dissociative Identity Disorder, Complex PTSD, Dissociative Disorders and associated symptoms. Not only is for the survivor but for family members.

To be honest everyone has gone through post effects from life situations. A few of those effects are unwanted memories, increased inner critic (self-voice) chatter and influx of negative thoughts, beliefs or emotions directed at self. My podcast is intended to help you find some inner peace in your mind. All of the topics I will talk on this podcast about are not only applicable to post trauma issues but very applicable for everyone. I am sure you can have experienced some type of situations where you have been wronged, bullied, teased, hurt, judged, deeply disappointed, verbally criticized or taken advantage of at one time or another in your life

Quieting the Noise in Your Mind podcast episodes are intended to educate you and enlighten you on relevant life topics, like becoming a healthier you and techniques to enhance your life, improving your life skills, how to get a shift your mindset and stop that chatter in your mind that limits you or holds you back from getting what you want out of life.  


Quieting the Noise in Your Mind will help you triumph over the aftereffects of your past and begin creating a more positive history starting now.

Where Do I go to listen to Quieting the Noise in Your Mind Podcast?

Go onto the internet and click on this link http://www.williamtollefsonvalues.blogspot.com/ . When the home page comes up look for the column to the right of first blog and the top box is the podcast player. Scroll down in the podcast box to view all episodes or click on the first episode to launch and listen to the episodes that interest you the most or listen to them all. Enjoy!

I would love for you to get the word out others about this new Podcast.

Quieting the Noise in Your Mind podcast episodes are for you

If you have a topic or topics you want me to talk about please send me an email to Tollefsonenterprises@gmail.com 

Also while you are on my blog click and become a follower of William Tollefson Values Blog and return often for new podcast episode and new blogs.



Saturday, June 14, 2014

5 Tips for Fixing Negative Beliefs


Do you have beliefs particularly about yourself that do not serve you but you won't let go of them? Believe me you are not unusual. Everyone has. I have written a lot on core beliefs and how they govern how you think about yourself, feel about yourself and how they affect your reactions as well as you perform in life situations. If they can do all that just mentioned then they are powerful and a major influencer of you identity and life.

Can you imagine being more governed by your beliefs? It is possible because abuse and trauma experiences magnify your beliefs power and influence. 

Survivors know how after experiencing abuse or trauma his or her inner critic (inner voice in their head) becomes directive, meaner, and even more judgmental than pre-trauma. It is core beliefs that feed content to inner critic. So it is important for survivors to understand core beliefs and their formation. Even after you are able to process the traumatic memory or flashback of abuse or trauma, you are still be left with negative beliefs about yourself as a results of those experiences.

How your brain operates and responds to abusive and traumatic experiences

I want to present a description of how core beliefs or self-messages are formed and how they are intensified as a result of abusive or traumatic experiences. Understand no matter how much you work on healing your past wounds through memory work, you are still left with negative beliefs about yourself. These self-messages and their associated emotions can and do impede your growth, happiness and personal progress.



Your brain is recording your life constantly. The brain records what you see, what you experience, your physical response, your emotional response and what you think during every life situation. A lot situations are minor and discarded. What makes a memory stick, or become unable to process is the feeling it evokes. Therefore it becomes clearly important is that abuse or trauma memory is kept alive and store unprocessed due to its emotional significance.

Formation of a core belief and relationship to memory

Imagine that memory formation is the earth. The earth records all of the aforementioned data by way of different compartments in the brain and are stored in the core of the earth or sub files. The three different sub files are sights, sounds and general emotions. The sub files make up the memory of the situation that is being recorded. Because the event was life threatening the memory goes unprocessed.

While certain compartments are recording the situation, in another compartment of the brain it is forming a belief that is specific to the abusive or traumatic memory which you can imagine as the moon for this example. Depending on the situation and the life threatening emotional impact of the situation the belief forms as a negative one. Associated with that belief an emotion is registered and connected to that specific belief. Now this emotion registered and connected to that specific belief is separate from the general emotion in the traumatic memory. As mentioned the definition of a core belief is a belief you form about you to the exact event, how you handled or did not handle the situation and the associated emotion.

Let continue. So far imagine the earth (memory) with the moon (core belief and associated emotion) sitting behind the earth in dissociative storage area. While you might be able to at some point, either immediately or later, process the flashback or traumatic memory and integrate the traumatic memory into your long-term memory bank (file cabinet).

Therefore the traumatic memory or earth moved out of dissociative storage, integrated and moved to another compartment of the brain, because the moon or core belief from the traumatic situation is separate from the memory you are left with the core belief and connected emotion which is not processed or changed by processing the memory. The core belief remains independent, stored in the subconscious under belief about self for future reference and becomes a huge influence to how you will react in life situations to come. Over time the core belief embeds itself into your subconscious or belief system. Consequently you are left with the belief that you formed about yourself which tend to be self-limiting, self-defeating, defaming and extremely judgmental.


Sample formation of a core belief due to abuse or traumatic experiences

A sample would be that you experience an abusive or traumatic situation where you felt you couldn't stop the event from happening based on your standard or someone else’s standard. Therefore the core belief that was form was “I deserved to get hurt, because I couldn't protect myself” with an emotion connected to that belief is that of anger or disappointment toward yourself. 

By the way “I don’t deserve ____” is the number two core belief that most survivor carry about himself or herself. 

Maybe through therapy or coaching you were able to process the memory. The memory is then render insignificant and stored in your long-term memory bank, but what you're left with is the belief that “I deserved to get hurt, because I can't protect myself” and the associated emotion of anger and disappointment. Later on in your life you experience another event occurs and that situation triggers the core belief “I don’t deserve”. That specific core belief then comes up out of your subconscious and surfaces into your conscious mind. Your immediate thought would be that you don't deserve anything, because the core belief and you feel angry and disappointed toward yourself.

Is there any hope for changing negative core beliefs?


So are you helpless to your negative beliefs which reside in your mind right under the surface your preconscious? No is the answer. These influencers that sit silently in wait to be triggered in order to direct you and your life are in fact can be changed.

5 Tips on how to change negative core beliefs

Wouldn't it be nice to be able to change negative, self-defeating or unwanted beliefs? You have the power to change the content of these negative beliefs or self-defeating messages. 

How? 

"Simply drag the old core beliefs out of your subconscious mind, expose them and once exposed they become vulnerable to change."

1. Recognize your beliefs

First of all you cannot fix what you do not know. So recognition is your first and most important step. On a piece of paper and write all your core beliefs. Be sure to write down all beliefs you have about yourself, others and the world: good and bad, insignificant or significant, large or small.

2. Identify

Is each belief actually your truth? Next step is to identify the fact as to whether each belief is real or false, negative or positive, productive or destructive. Draw a one straight line through the beliefs that are false, negative and destructive. Those marked core beliefs are the ones that are barriers to change.

3. Create anew. 

Third step is creating new list of beliefs that you want to change the old beliefs with. Next to each belief you not longer want to believe in, create and write down a new positive belief you want to replace the old blocking belief with.

4. Practice

If you do not replace the old with new all you are left with is emptiness. Last step is to shift your mind to focus and accept the new belief over old belief. Repeat your new list to yourself 5 times daily consistently. Most important is to say your new belief list first time when you wake up and then the last time before you go to sleep. To make your new beliefs more powerful, say your new one with feeling, in a strong emotional tone.

5. Discipline

Say the list every day for 30 days. If you follow through and practice your list for 30 days the new beliefs will embed themselves into your subconscious and become your truth. Also notice when your new beliefs start to manifest in your life. How will you know that? You will be told by other people in your life or you will feel the difference.

After Thoughts

I hope this blog has helped you to understand better how powerful and influential a core belief can be that was formed during abusive or traumatic situations. Once you recognize the power and the strength negative beliefs have on your actions, thinking, feelings or reactions, the easier it is to take back your own power, personal authority and shift to new core beliefs for your benefit. You can make a positive change to your life and yourself by following the 5 tips above.  

Learn by reading more articles on William Tollefson Values Blog - like: How trauma intensifies your Inner critic 

If you need more help at eliminating negative or unwanted beliefs in your mind then visit my website.  

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          Coach Bill

Thursday, June 5, 2014

Tips on Normalizing and Healing Dissociative Identity Disorder


Do you suffer from or know someone you love who is suffering from Dissociative Identity Disorder or DID? 

Has traditional therapy and medication not worked.

Well, there is another way. For over 20 years I help survivors with DID to successfully stabilize their condition with Incorporation Therapy and as a result, they began to enjoy a better way of life. Incorporation Therapy was very successful as a stabilization method but it was not designed nor was the objective of Incorporation Therapy to take survivors with DID further into trauma healing. 

Now there is an upgrade to Incorporation Therapy that accomplishes the objective aiding a survivor with DID to begin to heal post trauma. 

The name of the upgrade to Incorporation Therapy is System Unification Method or SUM. SUM is the result of research, feedback from survivors with DID who had been incorporated for least 3 to 4 years of experience and 4 years of development and beta testing.


Here is the culmination of my 40+ years of passion and work to build a better post trauma product for survivors with Dissociative Identity Disorder that was safe, productive and worked. There is hope for healing from DID. 

Below is a discussion about the successor to Incorporation Therapy



How to Heal Dissociative Identity Disorder



Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) has been a very misinterpreted, underestimated, misunderstood and feared diagnosis for both survivors and many members of the therapeutic community. Dissociative Identity Disorder has been dreaded for centuries. Dissociative Identity Disorder is not a mental illness rather it is a natural protective response, reaction to experiencing repetitive overwhelming and life-threatening events.

The label of DID carries with it a lot of stigmas as depicted in movies and television. Societal beliefs, religious beliefs, and science do not cast a favorable view of Dissociative Identity Disorder. Some professionals, particularly psychiatrists, do not even believe DID is real, and others are not trained to assess or conduct therapy on the complex condition. Anyone who has received a DID diagnosis has felt extreme pressure, real or imagined, to hide his or her condition. Therefore, those who carry this condition experiences feelings of blame, embarrassment, guilt, shame, and humiliation. Survivors with DID really think they are damaged inside or crazy because many survivors do not understand the symptoms they are having at the onset.

Traditional types of treatment do not seem to be effective with survivors who have a diagnosis of DID. Conventional accepted therapies focus on past life experiences looking for the specific “event” that caused the “problem.” Once the problem is found, a diagnosis has to be given. Then treatment is done by the correct protocol connected to that diagnosis even if the problem is misdiagnosed.

The Problem

This type of therapeutic self-discovery can cause re-living experiences, very frightening events, feelings of disloyalty, dissociative episodes, shameful thoughts, rejection, extreme triggering, and can be emotionally devastating … to name a just few of the potential side effects. This type of therapeutic course of treatment is extremely hard and time consuming for survivors with a DID. Traditional methods of treatment like integration, including medication, tend to cause abuse and trauma survivors to be re-traumatized as a result and experience frequent relapses as well as regression periods. Conversely, the inner system views these types of treatment as an attack, and experience increased feelings of fear, multiple episodes of switching between the parts and re-traumatization.

Refreshing View of DID


The brain is hardwired to survive no matter what. I believe creating a DID System is a normal defense reaction to experiencing horrible, repetitive life-threatening events. It is a natural defensive response to overwhelming traumatic experiences.
This life-saving separation of a whole self into a DID system appears to be a mirror of the human brain and how it functions. Think about this … even though the brain is one organ, the brain operation as a whole is done via functional compartments. The brain governs the functions of both the body and the mind through different centers. Development of DID is an innate defense mechanism to protect the whole by forming many different compartments of parts or alters with each one functioning differently......

Tips on the Benefits of Completing the SUM protocol:

Past emotional charge within traumatic memories in each compartment (part) is eliminated, triggers are disconnected,
hypersensitivity and hypervigilance is removed, reduce negative thinkingold negative core beliefs are removed, old core expectations are shifted, self-limiting, self-harming and self-defeating messages are eliminated, and no medication is needed, as well as no hospitalization.

Takeaway

The SUM method for healing survivors with DID allows the survivor to free his or her parts from past traumatic structure, restructure inner DID system while beginning a new life of growth and healing immediately. 

Another very positive side effect of experiencing System Unification Method is the significant reduction in the intensity of PTSD symptoms experienced by a DID system.

                                                 
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             Coach Bill