Follow by Email

Monday, July 31, 2017

Powers of Thought: Mind Code


Ever wondered how your mind works? 

Each one of us has questions about how our thoughts form. What generates them? Why our thoughts just happen and seem to have a mind of their own?

To know how you think the way you do would decrease the influence your thoughts have on you and increase your personal power. 

To know how your thoughts are manifested into actions, behaviors, and emotions would give you greater confidence? Learning how you can change the way you think, like from negative and self-defeating to positive and productive thoughts, would give you more hope and strength.

Start empowering yourself today. Shift your life by changing the way you think.

Click on the link below and listen to a free mini-lecture on mind code. The mind code lecture will explain and give you great insight into how your thoughts form and how your mind process works.

          Click Here to Hear the Free Mind Code Mini-Lecture

          Coach Bill

Thursday, July 13, 2017

Power of Thoughts: Tips on Making Dissociation Productive & Positive


Dissociation is the most creative survival power the human mind possesses. It can help a person get through horrible situations, emotional hurt, physical pain, and life-threatening experiences.

Dissociation, when enforced if needed, allows a person to escape the reality he or she is in, not be aware of the hurt, pain or threat which is happening at the moment, and numb / ignore the overwhelming physical and emotional discomfort. Yet it is so misunderstood. 

Helping professionals have designated this PTSD symptom as negative, a part of a disease and a character weakness. Nothing is further from the truth.

Why does everything associated with survival viewed as negative? Once out of abuse, trauma or combat situations or environments and the survival aspect is no longer needed, can't  post-traumatic symptoms be looked at as productive and positive? 

Dissociation is Normal and Natural

Dissociation is a normal reaction and natural beneficial reaction to surviving and after-effect of experiencing abuse, trauma or combat situation(s). Dissociation is a protective adaptive skill that allows anyone to avoid hurt or pain mentally, emotionally, physically or living in an untenable environment as well as a situation.

By definition, dissociation is a mental process of disconnecting from one's thoughts, feelings, memories, and/or sense of identity when the whole is threatened with harm, hurt and pain on a mental, emotional, physical or spiritual level. 

Therefore, dissociation is the ability to an instinctively, and creatively focus to mentally / emotionally block out the present in order to escape and survive what is happening in reality. Probably, since abusive, traumatic, and combat experiences are viewed as negative, horrible and overwhelming the resulting symptoms are seen as negative, and terrible. 

Dissociation is very misunderstood by many professionals causing the general public to fear it, and survivors to be confused by it.

Tips on Making Dissociation Productive and Positive

Tip #1 Dissociation does not have to be negative. 

Dissociation is an adaptive survival skill. Actually, saves victim's lives.It has long been conveyed as bad, negative, or maladaptive when not in trauma. But the truth is dissociation can be a positive, productive and a very strong adaptative skill. Actually, dissociation is the ability to divert focus tack specific, inward, adapt, and adjust quickly in order to survive an overwhelming and possible life threating situation.

Tip #2 Dissociation can be a Productivity Tool

Dissociation, if no longer feared, embarrassed, cultivated, and practiced, can be used as a productive focus tool. When combined with other elements like intuitive breathing method and mindfulness dissociation increases in power. All three combined increases significantly productiveness.  can result in increased task completion, for better performance in class work and school, for sports performance improvement, and job projects and general health improvement in the ability to function daily.

Tip #3 Make Dissociation Positive 

To make dissociation positive you have to change your mindset. Change the way you view dissociation. You have to change your mindset from viewing dissociation as a pathology symptom to seeing dissociation as productive and as an advantage.
Once you make the change then practice your mindset change a lot.

Tip #4 Positive and Productivity Tips

Here are some symptoms of dissociation combined with how you can change each to be positive and productive.

 Feeling of being disconnected from yourself

    (Make your experience productive and positive by reconnecting with yourself and increasing
     your relationship with yourself)

 Problems with handling intense emotions

    (Make your experience productive and positive by embracing your emotions, instead of ignoring them or disconnecting from them. It is better to learn how to experience your emotions rather than running from or numbing them. Emotions are only painful if you believe they are.)

 Sudden and unexpected shifts in mood – for example, feeling very sad for no reason

    (Make your experience productive and positive by learning your triggers. Recognizing
     your triggers reduce your inappropriate response to them and how to neutralize their
     power and influence over you.)

 Depression or anxiety problems, or both

    (Make your experience productive and positive by breathing exercises, meditation, mindfulness, being in the moment and learning intuitive breathing to reduce depression and anxiety.)

 Feeling as though the world is distorted or not real

     (Make your experience productive and positive by checking out your environment by asking yourself these questions. What is my sense of what is happening? Then determine if your sense is real or unreal? Is it true or false? Is it productive or unproductive? Your answers will help you focus and achieve clarity in your thoughts.)

 Memory problems such as flashbacks, forgetting important personal information and significant memory lapses

     (Make your experience productive by journaling thoughts and feelings and taking notes on your memories as they come to you. Take your information and check them against your history as you know it to be)

Other cognitive (thought-related) problems such as concentration problems, like forgetting important personal information or wandering thoughts

   (Make your experience positive and productive by remaining mindful and connected to the moment. Find a point in the present that will assist you focusing your attention on what you are doing, therefore, enhancing the ability to stay present.)

Feeling compelled to behave in a certain way

   (Make your experience positive and productive by reducing impulsiveness, sense of acting and being mindful. Ask if what I am doing will help?)

Identity confusion – for example, behaving in a way that anyone else would normally find offensive or abhorrent.

   (Make productive by checking your beliefs and change the one which is harmful. Rescript your identity into the identity you want. Your traumatic experience changed your identity, so it is your power and right to change it.)

⦁ Feel as though negative attitude is the default

   (Make your experience positive and productive by deciding an appropriate mindset toward dissociation.)

Subtypes of Dissociation

More Information: Two Subtypes of Dissociation

There are subtypes of dissociation many mistaken as dissociation. Both of these subtypes of dissociation are byproducts of experiencing intense anxiety as a result of experiencing abuse, trauma, or combat events. These both cause self-judging of yourself and your environment. Intense anxiety, doubt, and second-guessing result from living through life-threatening experiences. 

A good thing to know is if you are in a state of self-judgment, you are not in a state of self. Therefore losing connection with yourself and your surroundings. Both subtypes can develop as a result lesser degree of experiences and without the development of Post-traumatic Stress Disorder.TS

1. Depersonalization

Recent research evaluating the relationship between Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and dissociation has suggested that there is a dissociative subtype of PTSD, defined primarily by symptoms of derealization (i.e., feeling as if the world is not real) and depersonalization (i.e., feeling as if you not real).

An ‘out-of-body’ or depersonalization experience during which individuals often see themselves observing their own body from above has the capacity to create the perception that ‘this is not happening to me’ and is typically accompanied by an attenuation of the emotional experience.

2. Derealization

Similarly, states of derealization during which individuals experience that ‘things are not real; it is just a dream’ create the perception that ‘this is not really happening to me’ and are often associated with the experience of decreased emotional intensity or emotional numbness.

Questions to Enhance Enlightenment about Making Dissociation Positive and Productive 

The following 10 questions can help you further overcome dissociation. Recognizing your mind and body reactions can reduce the power, and of the dissociation. You can become more mindful, more intuitive, more positive, and make better decisions to be more productive. Your answers can help you to be more compassionate and create a positiveness toward yourself.

1. Ask yourself "What is your mind telling you?"

2. What is your body telling you?

3. What is your feeling telling you?

4. What is your intuition telling you?

5. What are you running from?

6. What are your top 5 fears about myself?

(Break down the top 5 to top 3 and then which is the most important fear? Then evaluate by answering – Is my biggest fear true or false? Is it real or delusional? What can I do right now to change it?)

7. What are your top 5 fears about life?

(Break down the top 5 to top 3. Then which is the biggest fear? Then evaluate by answering – Is my biggest fear - true or false? Is it - real or delusional? What can I do right now to change it?)

8. What are your top 5 core beliefs about myself?

(Break down the top 5 to top 3. Then which is the most important core belief? Then evaluate by answering – Is my biggest core belief - true or false? Is it - real or delusional? What can I do right now to change it?)

9. What are your top 5 core beliefs about life?

(Break down the top 5 to top 3. Then which is the most important core belief? Then evaluate by answering – Is my biggest core belief - true or false? Is it - real or delusional? What can I do right now to change it?)

10. How can I take what is going on inside of me or in my environment and make it productive?

Takeaway

Making dissociation positive and productive can be achieved after you are no longer are in an abusive, traumatic, or combative situations or surroundings as well as willing and ready to shift your point of view and change your mindset.

           Coach Bill