Can you imagine being more governed by your beliefs? It is possible because abuse and trauma experiences magnify your beliefs power and influence.
Survivors know how after experiencing abuse or trauma his or her inner critic (inner voice in their head) becomes directive, meaner, and even more judgmental than pre-trauma. It is core beliefs that feed content to inner critic. So it is important for survivors to understand core beliefs and their formation. Even after you are able to process the traumatic memory or flashback of abuse or trauma, you are still be left with negative beliefs about yourself as a result of those experiences.
I want to present a description of how core beliefs or self-messages are formed and how they are intensified as a result of abusive or traumatic experiences. Understand no matter how much you work on healing your past wounds through memory work, you are still left with negative beliefs about yourself. These self-messages and their associated emotions can and do impede your growth, happiness and personal progress.
Is there any hope for changing negative core beliefs?
"Simply drag the old core beliefs out of your subconscious mind, expose them and once exposed they become vulnerable to change."
First of all, you cannot fix what you do not know. So recognition is your first and most important step. On a piece of paper and write all your core beliefs. Be sure to write down all beliefs you have about yourself, others and the world: good and bad, insignificant or significant, large or small.
Is each belief actually your truth? Next step is to identify the fact as to whether each belief is real or false, negative or positive, productive or destructive. Draw one straight line through the beliefs that are false, negative and destructive. Those marked core beliefs are the ones that are barriers to change.
The third step is creating a new list of beliefs that you want to change the old beliefs with. Next, to each belief, you no longer want to believe in, create and write down a new positive belief you to counter and replace the old beliefs with.
If you do not replace the old with new all you are left with is emptiness. The last step is to shift your mind to focus and accept the new belief over old belief. Repeat your new list to yourself 5 times daily consistently. Most important is to say your new belief list first time when you wake up and then the last time before you go to sleep. To make your new beliefs more powerful, say your new one with feeling, in a strong emotional tone.
Say the list every day for 30 days. If you follow through and practice your list for 30 days the new beliefs will embed themselves into your subconscious and become your truth. Also, notice when your new beliefs start to manifest in your life. How will you know that? You will be told by other people in your life or you will feel the difference.