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Monday, June 22, 2015

5 Tips for Stopping Numbing Emotions

"Hello Numbing My Dear Old Friend"

Everyone suffers from pain from time to time in their lives. We all respond to pain differently. Some of us medicate them right away once the emotion surfaces. Some of us do our best to ignore it which intensifies them. Some attempt to dissociate the pain. Some of us wallow in the misery. Some just can numb it out. Numbing is a mastered skill that keeps survivors from feeling a pain that was never dealt with.

No matter how you react to your pain, it is crucial that you should learn from your pain.

Your body feels pain to warn you of danger or impending hurt, but the pain also reminds you that you are alive. It is good to know you are alive. So sometimes that is why you seek out feelings and associated pain at the same time. Yet you desire to choose to numb it out. It causes you to seek isolation at times to just sit with no feeling at all.

What if Numbing is what keeps you in the past?

What if feeling nothing or numbing is the worse pain of all? What if sharing your pain connects you to others and the act of feeling reminds you that you are indeed not alone.

Ready to stop numbing?  

5 tips to change:

  • Be brave enough to ask for help.

  • Seek support from friends, family, therapist or life coach.

  • Clear away the clutter you have surrounded yourself with.  If you're a shopper, it’s probably physical stuff.  If it’s food, a good start is to clean out your pantry. If it is a bad relationship, then extract yourself from it.

  • Accept your feeling and begin to face them. Emotions are like waves. Emotions come in, and if you don't feed them, they will roll back out.

  • Reward yourself when you feel by doing nice things for you. In so you will reduce your fear of feeling.

After Thoughts

What if numbing keeps you attached to a trigger associated to an active embedded memory? Improve yourself by accepting your emotional pain has passed and in turn, connect to the moment where you're living. 

Be alive and connected to yourself and the pain will diminish if you do not feed it. If you do the reverse by attempting to bury your painful feelings the more it will come thundering back and become more intense.
    Coach Bill                                           
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  1. Thank you so much for writing this outstanding article. The 5 steps are very helpful. You are absolutely correct that numbing old feelings can cause one to be triggered out of nowhere because the past wasn't closed. Thank you for the reminder to live in TODAY where everything is good, despite normal life stuff that everyone goes through. I am grateful to be where I am today and not living the way I did for most of my life.

    1. Thank you for your encouraging comments. Live in the moment. Yesterday is gone and can't be changed or fixed. The future is not here yet.Enjoy your feelings and don't numb them out. Feeling help you to know you are alive.

  2. Easier said then done,... am working on me - but am not there yet.

    1. Sandra, Thanks for your comments on this important blog. Too many of us ignore our emotions for fear something will happen as a result. Live in the moment and influence your tomorrow.