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Friday, July 18, 2014

Accountability is Important in Trauma and Addiction Recovery



There are many differences between two important groups: 

1) post trauma coaching and post addiction recovery; and

2) trauma therapy and addiction treatment. 

The major differences between the former and latter groups  is the issue of accountability

In post trauma coaching and post addiction recovery the client is believed to have the answers to his or her problems in recovering and not in the knowledge of the practitioner. A good post trauma and addiction recovery coach effectiveness is based on the questions asked by the post trauma coach which helps the client focus and come up with his or her answer that is right for them.

Achieve Accountability

To see if you are accountable able or not is through learning and being compassionate toward yourself. 

One way to achieve accountability is through customized writing assignments. The client is responsible for completing the assignments. The client is responsible for following through with writing on the assignments before next appointment. The assignments help reduce the “re-experiencing” in that it allows the client to write without feeling the past event, unlike verbally re-telling the event which occasionally causes the client to connect with the emotions that have been buried.   

As a Post Trauma and Addiction Recovery Coach, I work very hard to fit and customize specific questions for my clients. If my questions are not good  and on point then the client will not come up with his or her right answers and the forward process will stall.
In order to be on the same page as my clients, I sometimes have to give him or her an assignment to define a word which important to the healing. Defining words is important because everyone’s definitions varies in form and meaning. So I feel I need to work off my client’s definition and not my own understanding definition of the word.

Assignment Example 

In the process of writing, clients come up with some of their own most powerful answers, great definitions and acute accurate perceptions. Here is an example of a definition assignment that produced great definition done on a very important word. I think this word affects all survivors in his or her daily lives as well as their recovery from either trauma or addictions or both. That word is accountability.

Question -

Think about this question. 
Are you as a survivor more accountable to your life or to the promises you were forced to make by the perpetrator or addicting substance?

Example


The exact assignment question was:


“What does it mean to be accountable?”

I found this definition to be extremely enlightening. It was written by a client who experienced childhood and adulthood abuse and has a diagnosis of complex PTSD. She also formed severe addictions in order to numb out the intense feelings of suffering, and overwhelming emotions of hurt and shame from her PTSD symptoms. I hope that this description of the word "accountability" will empower you to affix accountability to yourself rather than following the lies of your perpetrator.

The client answered the question totally in her own words, not from a dictionary.

“Accountability to me is living up to a standard moral code that’s ingrained in my subconscious mind from nature not nurture. It is the acknowledgement and assumption of responsibility for my actions and reactions. Accountability is a system of integrity that suppresses impulsive reactions. It means that I am liable for my own destiny and culpable for the wrong decisions. Accountability and responsibility are guidelines for progress as I evolve spiritually, morally and mentally. It is doing what is right no matter how unfamiliar or hard it is to do.”

The client made a disconnection from the lies of her perpetrator. Due to her achievement of her separation from her abuser she began to live in the moment more and achieve a higher level of being happiness. Change happened when she changed her definitions of the words that her perpetrator forced on her to believe in. She also created new beliefs about herself from the new definitions.

Acquiring a new mindset through re-defining old words and embedding new personal beliefs can make post trauma and addiction recovery less mentally painful.

Accountability Moving Forward

Accountability is very important element. When accountability is not operational in the person recovering there is a great chance of self-sabotaging behaviors causes relapses. Healing then progresses when accountability is again affixed as an investment into recovering and there seems to be a more rapid forward movement from that point on. 

Tip

So to assume true self-accountability and enhance your chances of healing your wounds you have to be honest with yourself and cast away false blame.

Takeaway

To make a positive change, an individual needs to embrace the issue of accountability for your actions, directions, emotions, thoughts and reactions. A side effect of affixing accountability to yourself is that when you're in recovery focusing and thinking of accountability will cause you to spend more time in the moment. Therefore spending less time in false shame of what happened and regret of the past or predicting and projecting into the future. 

Post trauma and addiction recovery can be healed if you can stay focused on your life and health in the moment. In order to do this first you need to acquire new skills for living without crisis and chaos or looking backward. Second depending on the severity of the trauma, abuse or addiction you need to seek support to help through the after treatment journey. 

                 Be accountable to yourself and grow day by day.

                    Coach Bill

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