Sunday, February 22, 2009
Feelings are a part of our lives. We accept, deal, express, deny or avoid feelings constantly. Our own feelings as well as others. For the most part it is not the feelings we encounter everyday that shape our lives the most, but it is the feelings that we submerged deep within us as a result of traumatic events we experienced. No matter how great or how small the event, we were unable to modulate those overwhelming feelings during our darkest periods. We hide these unclosed feelings beneath the surface of our consciousness. It is these submerged feelings which cripple our present decisions and affect our future behavior. We must find a creative way to walk through our resistance to raise old submerged feeling, revisit them and then make closure with them. In order to do this we have to leave our comfort zone and venture into our self. The fear of facing our submerge feelings is not as damaging as continuing to carry the pain of unclosed feelings deep within us.
Saturday, February 14, 2009
Inner Values are accepted standards, personal messages or moral principles retained in our mind. Our inner values influence heavily our attitudes, thinking, feeling ,and how we behave. The inner values we carry are not always set by us, because not all of us believe in ourselves or our personal authority. For the most part, we allow others to set our inner values, either through acceptance or force. Inner values can be set by family members, people we look up to in our lives, partners, spouses, teachers, coaches, community, government or religious doctrine. On the dark side, our inner values can be set by our by force by people who have hurt and/or abused us. Forced values are what I termed Abuser Values in my book, Separated From the Light, cause individuals to hurt and sabotage themselves. Understand that we cannot successfully do what we want to do if we are directed by values that are not our own or we have not accepted, meaning we have no ownership to them. When we do not have ownership then we do not have authority with ourselves and cannot be successful in our lives. Stop, take a breath and review your inner values. If you do not accept them then change them. That is your personal right.
Saturday, February 7, 2009
When someone tells us over and over that things are bad, then everyone thinks it is bad and begins to produce negative thoughts and energy. Maybe it is possible the trouble with our lives is our lack of confidence due to our "mindset" that is being reset by others, and makes us question ourselves.
We need to rise up in a quiet revolution and create a new path of mental discipline. Collectively think confident on a daily basis, join together in effecting a new silent change and movement will happen.