tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post3012336754763553669..comments2024-01-11T02:14:58.532-08:00Comments on William Tollefson Values: Loyalty Factor in PTSD William Tollefson Viewshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07857735501459829201noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-26860976003642006412014-05-26T08:37:47.988-07:002014-05-26T08:37:47.988-07:00Lauren,
Thank you so much for your comments on th...Lauren,<br /><br />Thank you so much for your comments on this blog. Your words are heart felt.<br /><br />You have validated that if a survivor is given the right tools he or she can take their healing into their own hands.<br /><br />I really appreciate it.<br />Dr. BillWilliam Tollefson Viewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07857735501459829201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-709585161940467042014-05-24T18:33:19.925-07:002014-05-24T18:33:19.925-07:00Wow. As I read this article it occurred to me that...Wow. As I read this article it occurred to me that my abusers actually gave me something very powerful. By teaching me what undying loyalty is, they actually gave me a tool to use to heal myself from the amazing pain they caused me. I now realize that I can use that sense of loyalty by giving it to the person that actually deserves it - myself. By turning that strong sense of loyalty inward, I CAN keep the positive promises that I make to myself. I CAN PROTECT ME! What a powerful thought! Thank you so much for helping me realize this power I have!!!Laurennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-90500740004555455392013-09-16T11:51:59.950-07:002013-09-16T11:51:59.950-07:00Anonymous - You are very welcome. Blessings, Dr Bi...Anonymous - You are very welcome. Blessings, Dr BillWilliam Tollefson Viewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07857735501459829201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-69777402029709583692013-09-13T09:16:30.776-07:002013-09-13T09:16:30.776-07:00Thanks for all the comments and support. God bless...Thanks for all the comments and support. God bless you, Dr. Bill!!!!!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-48359056997695665742013-03-23T09:36:08.258-07:002013-03-23T09:36:08.258-07:00Woundgal - I am glad that you found value in this ...Woundgal - I am glad that you found value in this blog. I have worked for over two decades on this issue of loyalty and have helped many shifting their loyalty back to themselves. When you affix your loyalty to another you lose ownership of self. Changing your mind code allows you permission to own self fully. Enjoy self and be free.<br />Thanks for your encouraging words. Blessings, Dr BillWilliam Tollefson Viewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07857735501459829201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-91824815778662679942013-03-23T09:35:12.761-07:002013-03-23T09:35:12.761-07:00Woundgal - I am glad that you found value in this ...Woundgal - I am glad that you found value in this blog. I have worked for over two decades on this issue of loyalty and have helped many shifting their loyalty back to themselves. When you affix your loyalty to another you lose ownership of self. Changing your mind code allows you permission to own self fully. Enjoy self and be free.<br />Thanks for your encouraging words. Blessings, Dr BillWilliam Tollefson Viewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07857735501459829201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-91145582297070537162013-03-23T09:32:36.498-07:002013-03-23T09:32:36.498-07:00Andrew - I appreciate your statements. Even people...Andrew - I appreciate your statements. Even people without trauma and abuse have issues with loyalty. Loyalty to a dysfunctional family, job, peers or authority. <br />Thanks again for taking the time to read it. BlessingsWilliam Tollefson Viewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07857735501459829201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-8694881753190057482013-03-23T09:30:06.967-07:002013-03-23T09:30:06.967-07:00Anonymous - Thanks for the "right on". I...Anonymous - Thanks for the "right on". I agree that this article has a lot of value to all. Blessings, Dr BillWilliam Tollefson Viewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07857735501459829201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-54482630764412369112013-03-22T07:19:00.456-07:002013-03-22T07:19:00.456-07:00Lori - Thanks for your wonderful words. You valida...Lori - Thanks for your wonderful words. You validate my work and me. I truly believe that we should strive to have our Soul be free. No barriers. Keep following. Blessings, Dr BillWilliam Tollefson Viewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07857735501459829201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-75948897356395228562013-03-21T15:02:38.033-07:002013-03-21T15:02:38.033-07:00love this. it's such an encouraging and beauti...love this. it's such an encouraging and beautiful thought. I'm writing it down :)<br /><br />" Shift loyalty to self and the body and Soul becomes free"Lori Lickerhttp://www.inspirationsbylori.etsy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-1452255624715837772013-03-19T19:21:23.250-07:002013-03-19T19:21:23.250-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.William Tollefson Viewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07857735501459829201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-52742169526834488602013-03-19T19:15:11.094-07:002013-03-19T19:15:11.094-07:00sharon - I totally agree with you that loyalty is ...sharon - I totally agree with you that loyalty is a major issue and significant in healing from abuse and trauma. Change your thoughts, command them and your life changes.<br /><br />Thank you for leaving a comment.<br />Blessings, Dr BillWilliam Tollefson Viewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07857735501459829201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-68831033081827438712013-03-19T19:11:45.089-07:002013-03-19T19:11:45.089-07:00Woundgal - You comment is right on. Anyone can le...Woundgal - You comment is right on. Anyone can learn the skill that will shift your loyalties back into balance and associated core beliefs. <br />Appreciate your comments. BlessingsWilliam Tollefson Viewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07857735501459829201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-38818290187539598832013-03-19T19:08:28.309-07:002013-03-19T19:08:28.309-07:00Lori - I could not agree with you more. As our tho...Lori - I could not agree with you more. As our thoughts go, so do our emotions and physical body. When we work to find the barriers in our mind and free ourselves from them, i.e. our core belief, our mind is allowed to shift which frees our body and places us back into balance. Loyalty for survivors has always been a barrier and keeps one connected to the abuser. Shift loyalty to self and the body and Soul becomes free once again.<br /><br />Thank you very much for your comments. Keep following. Dr BillWilliam Tollefson Viewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07857735501459829201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-8995910125125127942013-03-19T11:53:17.138-07:002013-03-19T11:53:17.138-07:00I would suggest one other source of freedom and it...I would suggest one other source of freedom and it is that of the body. Our behaviors and thoughts change not only our brains but the body as a whole. Research is now proving how thoughts change bodily functions. Therefore, freedom of the mind would cause freedom of the body.<br /> Your thoughts?Lori Lickerhttp://www.facebook.com/InsteadOfEDnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-42126053248471561322013-03-17T17:21:52.297-07:002013-03-17T17:21:52.297-07:00Bill - Thank you for your comment. I agree with wh...Bill - Thank you for your comment. I agree with what you said.William Tollefson Viewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07857735501459829201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-75735670292940856762013-03-17T08:51:47.619-07:002013-03-17T08:51:47.619-07:00Woundgal - Being free mentally, emotionally and sp...Woundgal - Being free mentally, emotionally and spiritually is the only thing acceptable There is no other answer.<br />The wonderful thing is about all of this is you can shift both your loyalties and associated core beliefs with just one skill.<br /><br />Thank you for your comment and thoughts.<br />Blessings, Dr Bill<br />William Tollefson Viewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07857735501459829201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-21199187418722161152013-03-17T07:32:48.207-07:002013-03-17T07:32:48.207-07:00Very powerful piece of information. As my understa...Very powerful piece of information. As my understanding increases about my core beliefs and where "my thinking" at its core comes from I am now able to have some awareness of my own "loyalty and shame". But it in truth is not "my" loyalty and shame. Keeping this in the forfront of is not easy but for me it has become an "exercise" per sae. When I start that self destructive, self depreciating, blame game thinking I STOP and get out of the loop by simply saying "that does not belong to me". It is not 100%. Understanding my triggers is key to my process. Yes I do get "sidelined" when a new trigger pops up. But what I am finding is that as I "watch" for the triggers I can more often recognize them, without "acting out". But more so process them.<br /><br />Anyone looking for a quick fix for me it is not there. It took so many years to have this loyalty and shame embedded as mind code it will now take my effort to change the thought patterns. But I know I need to create new thought patterns. All I know is the slavery I was in physically morphed into "me" remaining a slave through my thinking. Now that I have more insight the only thing that is acceptable in my life is my "freedom"Woundgalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14345220641254844296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-49744598007817239882013-03-16T18:52:39.276-07:002013-03-16T18:52:39.276-07:00This is really a major issue...and the only loyalt...This is really a major issue...and the only loyalty I am trying to center on is my well being....if it's not a positive affect then I change my perspective into something that expresses my thoughts not others. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01489870480220357452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-5861613312729111792013-03-16T14:08:02.214-07:002013-03-16T14:08:02.214-07:00Dr. Bill very interesting reading. One thing ocur...Dr. Bill very interesting reading. One thing ocurrs to me on thinking about loyalty. Loyalty is less a bonding of two and more a mindset (core belief) of one. I can be loyal to an organization, person, etc. and not have that loyalty reciprocated. In fact in abuse it is never reciprocated. I believe that loyalty is a way of viewing relationships that is more often a onesided hope. People who are "loyal" are more often likely to see that quality in others whether or not it exists.Bill Rohrnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-463274471803807552013-03-16T13:00:59.727-07:002013-03-16T13:00:59.727-07:00Your thoughts are---> Right on!Your thoughts are---> Right on!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-40750221615879964232013-03-13T13:17:31.830-07:002013-03-13T13:17:31.830-07:00Powerful piece of writing here, seeing as many peo...Powerful piece of writing here, seeing as many people have issues with loyalty no matter the level of abuse or trauma. Very helpful in trying to understand the nature and workings of loyalty from any direction. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12398653645651098997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-17307532115893818922013-03-12T12:14:09.456-07:002013-03-12T12:14:09.456-07:00Anonymous - Thank you for your comment and thought...Anonymous - Thank you for your comment and thoughts. Loyalty is a real issue that affects all who have been abused or traumatized. There is a way to release yourself from it by changing the code that has been written in your mind. Change is possible. Dr BillWilliam Tollefson Viewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07857735501459829201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-55842447462399394732013-03-12T12:12:07.242-07:002013-03-12T12:12:07.242-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.William Tollefson Viewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07857735501459829201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2268632983340518777.post-2544893911044611332013-03-12T12:03:30.389-07:002013-03-12T12:03:30.389-07:00Everything you said is so true. When reading your...Everything you said is so true. When reading your post it became very real to me... because I struggle with that everyday. <br /> <br />Honestly...is there a "true" answer to this type of loyalty and shame? It always seems to be a temporary fix...because in the end...there is some type of trigger that sets you back right where you were at the very beginning. <br /> <br />When abuse is forced upon someone at a very young age...there is a very "deep" core belief developed...is there really a way out? Is there really a way to be free... free from it permanently?<br /> <br />There have been many times I believed I had overcome the "loyalty and shame" over my abusers...but some how it shows up again as though it had never left...it was just camouflaged...covered up...or showed itself in another form... at first it was not realize to be that same loyalty and shame...because it manifested in a different way.<br /><br />When abuse is so deep and starts at such a young age is there not a scar there forever...and there is always a possibility that the scar will start festering from deep inside again and the wound be reopened exposing the pain, shame and loyalty all over again?<br /> <br />Good Blog...just brought up a lot of questions and fear that there is never going to be a "true fix" to this " Loyalty and Shame...deep core belief" issue. Thanks for listening.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com